<p>Do you think at my age (20) it is normal that I have never had a boyfriend?</p>
<p>No, its not normal.</p>
<p>Of course that is not normal; what is normal is defined by the majority, and the majority of 20-year-old females have had a boyfriend. That said, I'm not sure why normality would matter in this situation.</p>
<p>Most girls I know lose their viginity before your age. i wonder why you didnt even have a boyfriend.....</p>
<p>It's perfectly normal for each of us to begin dating & have boy/girl friends on our own schedule. If we're busy with school & other activities, we may have less energy to spend on socializing. My college roommate didn't have her 1st date until her senior year of college & at that point her taste in men was very questionable (she was dating a man who scared all of the rest of us who lived in the dorms & we had to help her get out of the relationship when he started scaring her too).</p>
<p>My sister has her 1st boyfriend now at age 40+ & she's his 1st girlfriend too. Both are really nice, intelligent and otherwise successful. My niece is starting her 3rd year of college & has never had a date or boyfriend yet. She's also extremely nice, friendly, smart & interesting (just quite shy, especially with boys she doesn't know well). </p>
<p>My kids are 15 & 17 & have not yet dated, tho they have lots of friends of both sexes. Both have friends who started dating at much younger ages, but as my daughter says, "What's the rush?" She feels she has her whole life ahead of her & still is sorting out what she wants & needs without complicating it by having a boyfriend at this point. My husband didn't have serious girlfriends until his mid 20s--we're all different; several of his best friends were engaged & married at similar ages.</p>
<p>who is judging you as to whether this is the norm?? You do whatever you want to do... possibly you just haven't met "mr. right" yet...or maybe you have other interests that have made it near impossible to show that you are available... there is no time limit on dating/ marrying (or losing your virginity!)....it'll happen whenever, maybe when you least expect it!</p>
<p><em>shrug</em>
Whatever's comfortable for you should be what matters.</p>
<p>I don't think it's NORMAL as in normal normal but I think it's normal as in.. just society normal.. I dont think that makes sense..
My friend's sister hasn't had a boyfrined yet and she's 20 but that's because all her friends are guys and although she's not a straight tomboy, her friends just think of her as 'one of the guys'.. so when they all go clubbing, like, interested guys don't come up to her because other guys don't come up to a bunch of guys with 1 girl.. I've been telling her many times to go clubbing with her aquantincy girlfriends but she says that she's much more comfortable with her best friends.. But whatever tickles her fancy.. I just find it normal..
But....
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My sister has her 1st boyfriend now at age 40+
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that doesn't seem like the norm norm but it's so cute how they are each others firstys!</p>
<p>because you've asked this it seems quite obvious that you're concerned about it! my advice: don't be! being yourself and being confident will help you much more than stressing yourself about it. and yes, it is normal...afterall life isn't just about guys ;)</p>
<p>I'm 20 years old and have never had a serious relationship of any kind. The longest girl friend I've had only last about two months.</p>
<p>Lol, I'm older than you and I've only managed one month so far... but my current one is going well after 3 weeks :)</p>
<p>hey all these people should SSTTFFUU It is normal to not have boyfriend at your age. Most of the hoes that stupid a$$ highschool people see get AIDS and die early age. Wait until you are old and ready for a relationship. Dont be like everyone else and try to get a boyfriend to be in the norm. Do what you want to do.</p>
<p>^ are you for real</p>
<p>Yes, I think we would have noticed if all our popstars were dying of AIDs.</p>
<p>It is perfectly normal. I had my first boyfriend at 18...which I know is a couple of years behind you but I remember what it felt like to think it would never happen and I would never meet some one decent. My best friend never had a boyfriend until she was 23. However, he was the right one and they got married two years later. In my mind, it's better to wait for some one you really enjoy spending time with rather than dating some one just for the sake of having a boyfriend or girlfriend. In the mean time just enjoy the time you have with your friends!</p>
<p>oh and btw.....I haven't had a boy-fireind in the true meaning of the word(I'm 18)....just stuff like 2 months....or 2 weeks...that isn't a real relationship for me....still I live in a small town....people think I'm a geek only because I like maths....it's a stupid mentality...I do go out with friends(have lots!!!)....go partying...anyway....still waiting for the right guy(which I might've met....only he's too far away :( )
anyway.... don't worry too much about it...you're time shall come too ;) (as mine shall too :D)</p>
<p>I hate describing things as "normal" ... I would say it is not typical of all teenagers that you have not had a boyfriend by 20 ... it's also not typical to care about school and get great grades (is it bad being not typical about academics?). If we looked at kids similar to you, more serious about school and shy (both guesses on my part), it is much more likely that kids have not had a boyfriend yet. What is typical of everyone else doesn't really matter (although it sure can do a number on one's self confidence) ... there is no prize/contest for being quicker or slower developing relationships. What matters is if you develop relationships on the time table that is right for you ... which is normal for YOU!</p>
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losing your virginity!....it'll happen whenever, maybe when you least expect it!
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yeah, it really sneaks up on you and is totally out of your control</p>
<p>sorry you had to quote me without possibly understanding what i had said... i did not mean it to say that she would be losing her virginity when she least expected it.... actually i was putting it in there to rewrite it as someone posted it in another comment and spelled it incorrectly... but i guess i can see how you took it in another context. (i do hope she is there when it finally does happen and that she DOES have some control over what is happening)</p>
<p>I'm the weird/jealous type, and I could never be with someone (and by that I mean date) that had already dated around. To me, that person is "spent." A ridiculous mindset, but I can't seem to shake it. I never dated before my first/current boyfriend and the same for him. As NoFx said, being each other's "firstys" is cool. So anyway, the point is that it's cool that you didn't pack on unnecessary baggage of fickle high school relationships that just end within a few weeks or a few months. An "experienced" person is not always attractive, if not a turn off.</p>