<p>Thank God my D didn’t date in HS. She met her current BF in college sophomore year (he was a freshman). They have been through a lot together: separations over the summers (they both hail from California, but different parts) her study abroad, a break-up, and other big life issues. Now she’s working in NorCal while he finishes up in SoCal. Eventually, by the end of this year, they will finally have the chance to be together full-time. Will it work out? Who knows- they seem so young. My H already treats him like a son-in-law, and we meet up with his parents a few times a year, which seems a little strange to me, but OK. I just can’t imagine all of this starting in HS- even college seems too young to me. But he makes her happy and vice versa. It is definitely out of my hands at this point, as she is self-supporting. At least she has done things in the “right” order. If you ever want a reality check, watch “Teen Mom”.</p>
<p>If your husband is abusive to you or your daughter, you need help for that issue. Changing colleges is the least of your concerns. No on should feel bullied into staying at the same school. I’m not advocating this girl change colleges. To be frank, I think she should stay put. But if she does end up wanting to change, she should not be deterred from doing so by an abusive parent.</p>
<p>Didn’t read all of the replies, but here’s my $0.02.</p>
<p>My mom was a couple years ahead of my dad in HS, and he wanted them to go to the same school. She did one year at a local college, then a gap year, then they applied together to schools and went to the only one they both got into. After she graduated, Dad transferred back to a local school. They’ve been married for 30+ years now, together for 40.</p>
<p>I don’t know if they regret it, but I know my mom at least would have preferred to expand her options a bit, maybe go out west (we’re from the east coast). College is a time to branch out and explore, make sure your daughter is focused on HERSELF.</p>
<p>Now for my story…</p>
<p>I met and started dating a hometown boy after my first year of community college and his second year of four-year school a couple hours away. I was 16 and he was 20. He was well into his college career when we met and, though we certainly missed each other, the idea of him transferring never came up. We both knew he had to do his thing and at his own school, which he liked and had a good program for him.</p>
<p>Now it’s my turn to go “away” to school, as an 18yo junior (while I’m at it… <a href=“http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/parents-forum/1576417-advice-great-cc-parents-18-y-o-junior-transfer.html#post16568534[/url]”>http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/parents-forum/1576417-advice-great-cc-parents-18-y-o-junior-transfer.html#post16568534</a>). Again…we miss each other, but we respect that college is a special experience and that comes first.</p>
<p>I’ve heard of tons of people who do this, including a friend of mine who passed up on going away to college because of his HS gf…they broke up by February, which was past the deadline for most schools.</p>