<p>Hi, I'm looking for some feedback from folks who attended the same college as their h.s. boyfriend/girlfriend.</p>
<p>My D is a senior, she has a steady boyfriend of almost a year. They are very attached. We like the boy, he is a good kid and treats D well. They also both have large groups of good friends, not a lot of overlap in the groups since they attend different high schools. </p>
<p>They are both getting ready to apply to college, of course. They plan entirely different majors, but there is some overlap (3 schools) in their college lists. None of the schools on their "mutual" list has less than 5000 kids or is in a rural area. </p>
<p>My opinion on them potentially attending the same college is:
1) It's too early to worry about it (but I am anyway, or I wouldn't be writing here, haha). We need to see where they are admitted. Two of their mutual schools are a little bit of a reach for both of them. And they could break up between now and decision-time.
2) As long as they each end up going to the school that is best for EACH of them, I don't care if they end up at the same school or not. What I do NOT want to see is either of them give up a favorite school to follow the other one to a different school.
3) They are both strong people with good self-confidence. I don't think either of them would expect to spend all their time together, share all the same friends or join the same activities if they end up at the same school and are still a couple. </p>
<p>The BF's mom told me she does not want them to attend the same school because she thinks her son would be too distracted. I think that if they stay together and end up at the same school, D would be LESS distracted. She'd be able to take seeing BF for granted, and would go on about joining the activities she wants. If they are at different schools, she'd be worrying about when she could see him again, and possibly avoiding activities that would conflict with their travel plans (until they most likely broke up, in which case she'd be very sad for a while, get over it and move on).</p>
<p>Anyway..... I know three couples who began dating in hs, attended different colleges, and are now married. I know a TON of people who started dating in hs, attended different colleges, and broke up. What I have never met is a couple who began dating in hs and attended the SAME college. Are there any of you out there? What happened? Is attending the same school as a bf/gf just a universally bad idea?</p>
<p>(Disclosure: DH and I met in college.)</p>