<p>Just in case any of you are curious how this turned out–here is an update.</p>
<p>S came home very late last night and had to be back to campus today at 7, but we had some time alone shopping and then the two hour car trip, so we did get a chance to talk. </p>
<p>I took a lot of the advice offered here, and asked just general questions, and the answers he gave were specific enough that I feel like he’s managing things. He’s very happy with his living situation and said he’d like to continue in the Honor’s community next year as well, so I think that will motivate him to keep up with things. I feel like I gave him the opportunity to address any fears or concerns, and he seemed very calm and comfortable about the subject of grades. I think if he were worried or stressed he would show it at least a little. </p>
<p>The thing is, I feel like I should’ve learned this parenting lesson about 6,000 times by now, and it doesn’t seem to sink in. His old high school had a system that I could get online and look at his grades, and more than once I saw something horrifying, and spent a day or night fretting until I could question him. It usually turned out to be absolutely nothing. I’m going to quit looking, because what can I do about it anyway? </p>
<p>Thanks!</p>