<p>Thanks for the thorough reply, BCEagle91. My son can be pretty resistant to my suggestions – either in how to manage a problem or where to get help. Some of it is a fear of showing weakness, as you mentioned. I think some of it may be a mother/son issue.</p>
<p>I too have found that he can get comfortable with something – like going to a study group – if he can be persuaded to try it a few times. But sometimes it seems that he has to learn a lesson again every time it comes up. There doesn’t seem to be the “oh, I tried X before and that solved Y problem. Now Y problem has come up again, so maybe X solution is worth a try.”</p>
<p>I was particularly struck with your comment:</p>
<p>“He eventually got to the point where he wants to get as much done as soon as possible so that he can relax. If he has something pending, he takes care of it and then relaxes when everything is under control.”</p>
<p>That is what an adult does – deferred gratification. If I could get my son to that point, I’d consider myself a successful parent.</p>