Freshman year: surviving but not thriving; take a gap year?

[missypie]

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So we feel like he’s not getting full value for our education dollars.

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<p>I’ve tried out that version and it works pretty well, “He likes it okay but not $45,000 a year worth…”</p>

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I find that I feel much better about it if I discuss it truthfully. So far I have found that the other person is quite understanding, and can sometimes offer a useful perspective. Since I have taken this tack, I find myself coming to better terms with the situation.

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<p>A whole lot of people don’t know that Son has Asperger’s and I don’t feel it’s my place to inform the world. When the converstation goes to the “not doing all that well freshman year” I get all the “boys will be boys” stories and about how their son or nephew drank too much and joined a frat and didn’t do well freshman year either. </p>

<p>I’ve been very open with true friends and folks I know with Aspie sons…also with people who have a background in psychology or counseling. But as for the neighbor, parent of kid at school, random person at church…just not going to go into it.</p>

[DragonLady]

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I’ve been very open with true friends and folks I know with Aspie sons…also with people who have a background in psychology or counseling. But as for the neighbor, parent of kid at school, random person at church…just not going to go into it.

I can understand that.</p>

<p>When I get the “boys will be boys” response I can truthfully say that partying does not seem to be a factor.</p>

<p>I live in a pretty small community and most people have some sense of who my son “is”. I am not uncomfortable talking about his LDs, and everyone already knows he is immature :D.</p>