<p>I don't know where this thread belongs but I just wanted to know whether anyone has experienced or heard of having friend issues after being accepted and deciding to go to boarding school. My group of friends at my current school has become distant over the past month, now they treat me as if i've already left for boarding school (meanwhile i have 3 months left!). They exclude me from everything they can. Has anyone ever heard of this happening? Are they envious? Are they sub-consciously dissolving our friendship?</p>
<p>Last year, a lot of my friends were accepted to boarding schools and were going to attend the following fall. None of us got distant, we just got closer because we wanted to make good use of all the time we had left. I was not admitted to the boarding school in which I applied last year. It hurt, but I still wanted to be supportive of all my friends that were going to boarding school. I could have been jealous, but I think that would’ve been immature and a waste of time. My friends were good to me, and I wasn’t going to let tough circumstances make us distant. I’m still friends with all these kids, and I got accepted to some schools this year. Most of my friends attend a BS I was waitlisted at (again) this year, but I still have a friend at another place that I was accepted to. My friend at the other place has been a huge help and I’m glad I didn’t let my feelings get in the way a year ago. Who knows, we might be classmates again.</p>
<p>Applying to boarding schools as a freshman, I had to tread carefully with telling my friends at my new school about it all. The option is there to stay and graduate, whereas that wasn’t an option last year (my old school went to 8th grade). I didn’t know how they’d react. I don’t/didn’t bring it up often, but they were supportive on March 10 with the good news and the bad. They were really happy for me when I got acceptances, even though deep down I could tell they were kind of sad that I might leave (and so was I). I don’t know your circumstances, but maybe you brought it up a lot and it didn’t sit well with them. If the opportunity is there for you to stay with them through high school, they might feel hurt that you’re so excited about leaving (they may think you’re excited about leaving them or something - not sure). They could also be jealous. Boarding school is an awesome opportunity, and they might be bummed that you have that great opportunity and they don’t. Maybe they don’t wanna deal with the sadness of you leaving them and want to cut you out. It’s mean, I’m aware, but girls can be mean and I’ve seen it happen before. It’s tough being the kid (or kids) left behind. That’s been me. </p>
<p>That sounds like an unfortunate situation, and I’m sorry your friends are treating you like that. Hopefully you can work things out.</p>
<p>I have a friend who is going to boarding school next year and is experiencing the same thing, as am I. He actually just posted on Facebook how frustrated he is about the situation. I personally, am in a similar position. This is a hard time. Ever since I told them that I got into boarding school, they have acted different around me, looked at me differently, and tried to make my current situation sound as good as it possibly can. It sucks. You feel like they were fake to you for however long they were your friends. Its amazing how quickly friendships can deteriorate. They are not envious they just feel like there’s no point in hanging out with you since you’re leaving anyway. Sorry about that. I just needed to vent and explain to you that YOU ARE NOT ALONE.</p>
<p>Thank you so much @prepschoolwannab @needtoboard i just needed to know that i’m not the only one experiencing this! it sucks lol</p>
<p>No problem! I hope things work out okay for you guys! @Lottie87 @needtoboard</p>
<p>I’m currently a freshman at BS, though last year I was faced with the same dilemma 
. Honestly, though, it actually really helped me: my two best friends (who are AMAZING people btw!!!) were sad but ultimately supportive of my dreams. However, my OTHER friend was anything but “supportive,” and acted exactly how you’re describing </p>