<p>Okay, so here's the situation:
This girl who is my friend (have been decent friends for like 4 years, now we just talk occasionally) has been going out with this guy for over a year. They're super-clingy and everyone's grossed out by them being so touchy-feely. She's a junior, he's a senior. No one likes the relationship, all of her friends think he's a creep (which is pretty true from what I've seen). This past week, one of my friends I eat lunch with told he that the guy had texted her in the middle of the night feeling depressed that she had rejected him (I guess he decided he liked her, but she think's he's a creep). So he's been trying to start this new relationship while he's dating my friend who everyone thinks is too good for him. Also, the same girl (who he's been making advances on) told me that the guy said (to another girl he's friend's with) that he's going to break up with my friend. What should I do?</p>
<p>Let me try to paraphrase:
Girl A (my friend) is going out with Guy B
Guy B is making advances on Girl C
Girl C thinks Guy B is a creep, and is turning away his advances
Guy B tells Girl D he is going to break up with Girl A
Girl D tells this to Girl C, who tells me</p>
<p>One of the main problems is that I don't know whether he will actually break up with her, or if he's just talking. I don't want to hurt my friend's feelings, but I think she should know what's happening. One of her other friends knows the situation, and doesn't know what to do either. Advice?</p>
<p>Just tell your friend what you just told us. If that’s too much for you, you’re not exactly obligated to “do” anything. I can’t imagine what other options there would be, other than to either tell your friend the truth, or just let things happen on their own.</p>
<p>Keep in mind the possibility that the “break up” thing might be a rumor. After all, you noted that all the girls dislike the guy. It’s not unnatural for this sort of scenario to give birth to a slanderous rumor.</p>
<p>Thanks for your advice, I do just need to weigh the two options. And with him telling Girl D that he’s breaking up with Girl A, Girl C & D are pretty good friends, so I’m fairly sure that it isn’t just a rumor. Even though I’m not quite sure how honest Girl D is… Any other thoughts? Should I tell her (even though we aren’t very close anymore), or is it not my place? Should I see if Girl A’s other friend will tell her, or is that just wimping out? Would the news come better from a guy friend or a girl friend, or would it not make a difference? Thanks.</p>
<p>PS: My sister is good friends with Guy B’s brother. Would asking her advice put her in an awkward situation?</p>
<p>Don’t make too big a deal about it. Just tell your friend that is being cheated on that there is something she needs to know. Explain that you wanted to make sure she knew about the stuff going on before it got around school. Hopefully she’ll just be grateful.</p>
<p>I’m just not sure if it would be better for her not to know. She really likes him, and I don’t want her to get really upset if there isn’t really a problem. I don’t want it to turn out that these people are stretching the truth and that there really isn’t a problem… I feel really conflicted.</p>
<p>I would tell her, if you’re positive. However, don’t expect a warm reaction from her; especially if they’re as clingy and lovey as you’ve described–she might actually turn on you.</p>
<p>But it’s better to plant the seeds and let them do whatever she chooses. I would want to know if I were in her situation.</p>
<p>I think one of the biggest problems is that I’m starting to question it progressively more each day. Also, I’m not sure if it would be better for me to have one of her closer friends tell her, because we really aren’t too close, and I’m not sure if it’s really my place. Also, he’s going to college in a few months, and the relationship will likely end anyway. Will it be better to simply let it fade out?</p>
<p>If you’re not that close with her, then why do you care? Clearly what’s going on is wrong, but if this person isn’t your close friend then this just falls into the category of “world immoralities,” and believe me there are a lot worse things happening than attempted-cheating in an inherently doomed relationship.</p>