I’m in a similar predicament to this post here: Sad and disappointed: when to give up on a child's education?
DD is halfway through her junior year at a T10 school. She has completed five semesters, and took a leave of absence a few months ago because her school is “too stressful” and has “too competitive of an atmosphere” and she “doesn’t feel like she belongs there” (whatever that means 
).
There are many factors that contributed to this – her school is indeed known for a certain stress culture (which I have repeatedly told her to ignore but for some reason she refuses to listen), and she was rejected from most of the student organizations she applied to, so she doesn’t have a solid group of friends (I don’t understand why this bothers her, but whatever). She told me she has depression and anxiety to the point where she couldn’t function at school (even though she has an acceptable GPA!) and begged us to take a leave of absence in January.
At first, DH and I said no. And then we relented to her begging and said yes. That was the WORST decision of our life – now DD is saying she doesn’t want to go back to her (amazing!) college at all. DH and I are SO disappointed at her – 99% of high school students would be so grateful to attend her world-class institution, and I’m so resentful that DD is ungrateful for the immense privilege she has of me paying for her to attend this college.
So now we are looking at colleges that would take her as a transfer with five semesters of college coursework (in a social science major). Few colleges let second-semester juniors transfer into their school. It automatically rules out our state schools (the UCs), and I don’t want her going to a Cal State since the quality of her peers will be incredibly low. DD is on board with this, and agrees with me that a Cal State would be a bad fit for her.
DH and I are so resentful that DD doesn’t want to just tough it out at her current school (as most college students with anxiety and depression do!). Frustrated and disappointed don’t even begin to describe how we feel about this situation.
I’m a long-time lurker here and I wanted to get this board’s suggestions of (academically good) colleges that would accept her as a transfer student despite being halfway through her junior year (she has completed five semesters). Our EFC at DD’s current school (which is known to be generous with need-based financial aid!) is ~30k/year, and we cannot afford anything above that. I read somewhere online that Stanford accepts transfers with more than 4 semesters of college coursework, so DD will definitely apply there (although the chances of her getting accepted as a transfer are, quite literally, less than 1%). I also heard that NYU takes transfers with more than 4 semesters of college coursework, but DD won’t be applying since NYU will almost certainly not offer enough financial aid.
Thanks everyone, and I hope I don’t come off as too resentful or angry here. I’ll be gone for most of today since I’m super busy but will check this thread again in the evening.