<p>So I've been crushing on a girl for about a year now. She kinda knows, and her interest in me is...well not strong but we're friends. We're both headed of to different colleges, hundreds of miles away in the fall. One part of me knows that long distance relationships are not a good idea, but the other part of me doesn't :( In my last couple days of school, I'm just feeling SOOO bad about this not really going anywhere (this girl was, by FAR the most amazing girl I've ever met to date...). What should I do to deal with this crush?</p>
<p>you don’t really have much to lose. you’ll probably see her when you come back during breaks, but you’ll probably slowly drift apart as most people do. </p>
<p>i’d say just ask her out. if she says no, then who cares. if she says yes, then just have fun this summer. not every relationship (friend or otherwise) has to last for a long time. if you hang out this summer a lot and then you drift apart, your time this summer will always be something you can reminisce about.</p>
<p>advice about asking her out (and this is in general for anything that’s very difficult to do): don’t plan it. you see her at a party, go up to her when no one’s around and just blurt it out. it’ll come off natural and you won’t be sweating about it for a long time beforehand.</p>
<p>^definitely don’t plan it when it comes to asking her out</p>
<p>Last girl I asked out, I had planned on doing it after class, while she and I were walking to our dorms. I was kinda nervous (mostly because I built up asking her) and in mid-step I just told her in an overly serious tone that I was really interested in her and then to lighten the mood, she responds “Well that’s because I’m a really interesting girl.” </p>
<p>Aww snap, her comeback was swift and deadly, completely throwing me for a 360 because I was planning to be like “Hey, I’m really interested in you and I was hoping I could take you out sometime” or something simple along those lines, and when she kinda cut me off during an intentional pause, I just felt panicky and uncomfortable because things weren’t going the way I had planned.</p>
<p>After about the slowest and most awkward four or five seconds of my life, I regained my composure and asked her out. She said yes and we ended up going on a casual dinner/walk around town with each other. Things went well, but it just felt more natural for us to be just friends.</p>