<p>"How many parents today teach their kids to say "Hello" when an adult comes to visit in their homes? How many parents do not expect their kids/teens to be able to carry a nominal conversation with a visiting adult? I can't tell you how many times a teen has visited my home or I have been in a teen's home and the teen doesn't even acknowledge me."</p>
<p>My parents have taught me to say hello to an adult that is visiting with them in our house but frankly sometimes it's not really the teenager's fault that we don't say hi. First of all, if I don't know someone and they're in my house in the middle of a conversation with my parents and I'm just walking down the hallway adjacent to the room that they're in, I'm not going to stand there awkwardly waiting for them to finish their conversation just to say hello to a complete stranger. I don't think I should be expected to, either.</p>
<p>"I think I am kind of counting on statistics to take care of the situation. After all, how many high school romances make it past Christmas of the freshman year of college?"</p>
<p>CinciMom:
Statistics will probably take care of the situation...but I am one of the high school romances that lasted past Christmas of the freshman year! I started dating my husband as a junior in high school. I went to college but talked to him everynight for an hour on the phone, and saw him every weekend. We got married after we graduated from college, and this past August we celebrated our 22nd wedding anniversary! :)</p>
<p>If they both graduate from college and then get married it's fine by me. If they make it through that amount of time and distance more power to them. I understand where you are coming from, my husband asked me out for the first time when I was 18 and we just celebrated our 25th anniversary. We went to college together though so that made things much easier!</p>
<p>19382,
My suggestion is that you read your posts a couple of times before you post them. Perhaps you are unaware how patronizing they sound. CinciMom is a new poster and you decided to take her fairly mellow post regarding her son and a girlfriend as an opportunity to give unasked for advice and told her to butt out of even being concerned about her son. I didn't see anything in her post about not liking the gf or any suggestions of breaking them up. A little kindness on this forum goes a long way.</p>
<p>Previous posts:</p>
<p>"I am really ambivalent about the situation, on the one hand we like the gf, but on the other hand feel that it would be a very healthy thing for them to see some other people to get a true perspective on their relationship."</p>
<p>From 19382:
Your son is in college. His relationships are his choice now. Trust him to make the right decision for what is right for him. And if he senses you'll be hoping him and the gf will break up, that will only cause problems between you two. Time to let it go and leave it alone. Not your business anymore.</p>