<p>Maybe the guy's into you and too shy, or maybe you just really like him and want to go for it. Wadayya think?</p>
<p>As a guy–I think they should…makes the job easier on the guy. LOLOLOL</p>
<p>If the guy is too shy, then yes. Otherwise I think it’s the guy’s job to do it.</p>
<p>This could really backfire though. We, guys, aren’t comfortable with saying “no.”</p>
<p>My first girlfriend asked me out</p>
<p>I agree with Vodka23, don’t do it unless your 100% sure he is completly into you. Guys don’t like to say no. Especially shy ones.</p>
<p>It is hard saying no, so you could end up getting your hopes up for nothing. But then again, guys like me might make you wait a long time before we’re confident enough to ask you out, so it might be a good idea to either make it really obvious that you want us to ask you out or ask us yourself.</p>
<p>*My first girlfriend asked me out *</p>
<p>Guys aren’t comfortable saying no? As opposed to girls who are?</p>
<p>I would probably not accept a date from a girl who asked me out. But that view is probably archaic, so…</p>
<p>hmm. i don’t know actually. i’m actually the shy type so i’d rather let the guy make his first move.</p>
<p>If I think he’s into me but not doing anything about it, I might suggest we get coffee together but not something formally date-ish like dinner and a movie.</p>
<p>I actually am pretty sure I have been the one to ask all three of the guys I have dated. </p>
<p>I have absolutely zero tolerance for the “does he like me? doesn’t he?” game, so if I like somebody I am very straightforward about it. It is much less stressful to just ask somebody out rather than prance around wondering if he’ll ever ask you. Girls that do that are stupid and causing themselves unnecessary mental duress.</p>
<p>ETA: As for all the ones saying men don’t like to say no, I suppose I’ve never been turned down, but those three all turned into relationships so I guess they would have had to have a PRETTY DARN HARD TIME saying no to stick around that long. Half of you complain about always having to be the one to ask and how hard it is (haha, sure), so I guess we just can’t please everybody.</p>
<p>I have. I get impatient and annoyed, lol.</p>
<p>Most of the girls I dated asked me out.</p>
<p>My girlfriend was the one to admit her attraction first. We never really asked each other out (I think it’s kind of ■■■■■■■■ to say “will you go out with me”… it kind of reaches a dead-end after her response), we just kissed one day and realized we love each other. I guess it “went official” that day since we changed our facebook relationship statuses… whatever.</p>
<p>I personally think that girls should be more forwarded. This societal standard that guys have to ask a girl out is dumb. I can recall being hit on by a couple of girls in the past, but most weren’t attractive. </p>
<p>The one time when a really pretty girl hit on me, her attempt was just laughable. She made up an excuse to come sit next to me and tried to spark a conversation. She was really attractive, but her mundane conversation really bored me and she seemed to have no confidence. I guess she saw that it wasn’t going anywhere, so she asked me for my number, and then went to sit somewhere else. I then received a text a moment later saying “I noticed you when you first walked by. I think you’re very sexy for your age” (There was a four year age gap.) I just laughed once I saw that since I knew that wouldn’t work if I tried it on a girl.</p>
<p>Only one girl ever asked me out. It was kind of a pathetic attempt; she had one of my friends “introduce” us even though we had been in the same classes for about a year. Then she got all shy and awkward. It really sucked.</p>
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<p>I couldn’t agree more. I know girls who will just sit around and suffer waiting for a guy to ask them out. It’s so unnecessary! Just go and ask the guy already! </p>
<p>It’s a dumb standard that I hope fades away over time (as it might already be doing).</p>
<p>WCF: "Guys aren’t comfortable saying no? As opposed to girls who are? "</p>
<p>Yeah, girls have more experience rejecting guys and guys have more experience being rejected.</p>
<p>I agree though that girls should generally be more assertive, but you gotta be careful. It can be a catch-22 because if the guy was into you, there would be a good chance he would ask you out by himself.</p>