So my guy pals, how would you want a girl to make the first move?

<p>I dunno, a lot of the guys I know always complain about how nice it would be if a girl asked them out instead, for once, so I got to thinking, well how would that be done exactly?
And since I'm not exactly a guy, I thought it would be interesting to open this up to all my CC geniuses.</p>

<p>its better if the girl asks</p>

<p>Yes but how? Like from a girl’s perspective, it’s so awkward and weird to ask a guy out. Also, if you ask a guy out to like a movie, is the girl supposed to pay? I just want to hear other people’s thoughts on this</p>

<p>Well I would find it a nice and refreshing change if a girl asked me out somewhere. If I were you I would probably just mention an event coming up (or bring up the movie you want to see) and try and drop hints that you want to go with him, if he doesn’t pick up on your signals then just say something like “you should come!”. And I wouldn’t worry about paying, maybe go dutch or let him pay if he wants to.</p>

<p>just go up to them and ask. nothing more. trust me when i say this, we don’t really have high standards and we don’t like playing ‘games’ either</p>

<p>Haha just for future reference, I’m not asking about advice for my own love life. I’m merely curious because I never really thought about it before, though apparently a girl from my school asked out a guy (sophomore girl, freshmen guy) and half the school thinks they’re adorable while the other half… well they think it’s a bit odd.</p>

<p>Why odd?</p>

<p>@HarryJones I guess the general consensus is that it’s odd not because of the asking out part, but mostly because the girl is a grade older.
Although now when I think about it, last year for a couple of months, there were a few notable junior girls in relationships with freshmen guys…</p>

<p>I’d like the girl to take the same protocols that a guy would use to ask out a girl. Although I’ve never seen it happen for asking out on a date I have witness (and once or twice been on the receiving end of) girls making the approach to flirt with guys at parties.</p>

<p>But it’s only a year difference. There are probably people in the same grade who are almost a year apart.</p>

<p>@HarryJones I agree, but high school relationships really put an emphasis on age difference but that becomes less apparent as you grow older. I think they make an adorable couple.</p>

<p>@TheYankInLondon I think girls have no problem initiating flirting with a guy, it’s just that we apparently lack the wisdom to ask a guy out :P</p>

<p>I don’t like being asked out, but I do like when a girl makes to first move. Just signal. Ask what he’s doing over the weekend and tell him you don’t have anything planned yet or something like that. He’ll get the message and either ask you out or not.</p>

<p>Stare him in the eyes and put your hand on his junk. He’ll get the message pretty quickly ;)</p>

<p>^ LOL… that’ll do the trick</p>

<p>^Hahaha I like that idea. :)</p>

<p>But seriously, I think most guys (myself included) would prefer girls to be straightforward and honest. Certainly if the guy liked a girl enough to go out with her then I don’t think he’d find it weird to be the one being asked. On the contrary, I think he’d jump at the chance. If anyone finds the situation weird it’s the people who aren’t involved, and what do their opinions matter anyway?</p>

<p>@ Kabizzle, No lie this one asian chick actually did that to my friend. I envy that lucky son of a B.</p>

<p>its not better if the guy asks, its just awkward and the relationship will be a guaranteed fail if the man cant muster up the nuts to ask the girl out</p>

<p>I was actually debating this with one my girlfriends today. As much as we say we want a girl to ask, we don’t. Honestly, a girl coming up to me and asking for a date would off to me as desperate.</p>

<p>Girls need to tease a little. Let us think about you when you aren’t around. We need to ask, not you. </p>

<p>Now, it wouldn’t be so bad if you gave us some hints that you liked us. Texting first, calling first, or some verbal hints would be nice. But we need to ask you out first.</p>

<p>^ exactly. Obvi it would be easier if a girl asked, but it would be much better if she was just upfront about her feelings first, i dont want to play freakin sherlock holmes to try and figure out if she likes me or not, i will do the asking, i just need to know when.</p>

<p>^so true</p>

<p>10char</p>