<p>The title basically explains it. I'm just wondering if any of you would ever consider dating your best guy friend, and why or why not. I'll post more about my individual situation later when I have time but hopefully I'll get some feedback. Also, if you know of any people that went through college and kept in touch with their best guy- or girlfriend from high school throughout, and then they ended up dating, I would love to hear about that lol. Thanks :)</p>
<p>It does happen, but I’ll be honest so you don’t hold out false hope (I’m a guy, btw), most women consider their bona fide “guy friends” to be just that. If she’s treating you like her brother or like one of her girlfriends, then you are a “guy friend” and she’s not interested in you.</p>
<p>I have a female best friend from high school. We don’t go to the same school, but we still keep in touch. Even though she is very attractive, I don’t see myself dating her ever. I like her like a sister, but not anything more than that. It’s always good to have at least one best friend of the opposite sex, so that you always get a more universal perspective on life matters. </p>
<p>You never date your best friend. Ever.</p>
<p>Nope, I’d be terrified of messing up what we have.</p>
<p>I think TomServo hit the nail on the head…once you’re deemed a “guy friend” you’re treated the same way we treat our brothers…well, maybe not all girls see it that way, but that’s how my friends and I feel.</p>
<p>I probably should’ve clarified actually. I’m not sure if we’re best friends in the sense that you guys are thinking. It’s not the kind of relationship where we tell each other everything, and we actually got a lot closer when we both moved to different places. We don’t talk every day, maybe a few times a week. And it’s definitely not the kind of thing where she views me as a brother - i know this with certainty. I guess it would be really selfish of me to ask this, but is there any way to prevent that from happening? Or is it possible to get out of the friend zone ever? She doesn’t treat me like how she treats her best girl friends. I mean we’re close, but we’re close because we have a lot of mutual interests. I don’t know, life’s confusing</p>
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I can certainly agree with that, but you don’t think you could ever give it a chance?</p>
<p>Actually, it would be nice to date a friend if you were at that point in your life where you were definitely looking for a serious, long term relationship. Dating a friend who you might one day marry or something, makes far more sense to me than just essentially eating dinner or going to the movies with some strange man/woman who you barely know… However, if you are still exploring “dating” and figuring out what you like/dislike, then no I wouldn’t recommend dating a best friend. Give it time ;).</p>
<p>invasion here from the Parents Forum: 32 years later, I’m glad I “went for it” with my best guy friend…</p>
<p>It depends. If he is my best guy friend that I’ve always liked and wished we were more, then yes. But if he is my guy friend just as a friend, then no, because it would mess up the relationship to even try.</p>
<p>You can try this: I heard that if a girl likes a guy, she won’t mind him touching her hair. So try touching her hair under some playful pretense.</p>
<p>Try not to ruin the friendship while doing this, but you may want to see what sort of boundaries she has put on you, if any. That will tell you something.</p>
<p>Of course, sometimes girls put up walls around the very guy they are interested in. Women are just weird. Quantum mechanics makes more sense.</p>
<p>Considering that girls only have best guy friends who are fat/ugly/nerdy (otherwise they wouldn’t just be best guy friends), no.</p>
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<p>Ditto. If I was attracted to this guy in the first place, I’d probably be into the idea of dating him. If I meet a guy a that I don’t really have feelings for off the bat, I pursue the friendship because maybe we get along well/have a lot in common/enjoy the person’s company, etc. If I get into a really great platonic relationship with this person, I A) don’t want to ruin that friendship, and B) am probably just not physically/romantically attracted to him.</p>
<p>Once in the friend zone, always in the friend zone.</p>
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<p>Eh, there’s a little bit of merit to that. For me, and seems the same with all of my girl friends, I make friends with guys who I think are cute and I am a little bit attracted to. But if you think about it, isn’t it always that way?: how many friends do you have that are way less attractive than you?</p>
<p>I have to agree with another poster that it would suck when the relationship ends because then you lost a boyfriend and a close friend.</p>
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<p>Girls, how true is that?</p>
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<p>No. Just no. My best friend is not ugly/fat/nerdy. I’ve just always had a boyfriend, and he’s mostly had a girlfriend. It’s just nice to have someone there, outside of your significant other. Honestly, I think the best relationships come out of friendships. </p>
<p>I know my boyfriend and I were very close (not best friends though) before we started dating, and 3 years later, we’re still in a very healthy relationship. You just have to value your friendship more, and know when to step back and say “this (dating) isn’t worth it, remember when we were friends?” when things start to get harder.</p>
<p>That being said, before I dated my boyfriend I was (shamefully, I know) hooking up with the before-mentioned best friend and we were a “thing”, but stuff happened, I met my boyfriend and it didn’t work out. Still, I think if the stars had aligned, I think we would have been just fine.</p>
<p>I say ‘go for it’. Honestly, what’s holding you back?</p>
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<p>I’m the girl that always falls for her close guy friends (well, it’s happened twice now?).</p>
<p>Honestly, it’s working out pretty great right now.</p>