<p>So do relationships in college last? Especially if those relationships are formed between two people that come from different areas of the world or state or nation, etc. Because once you leave college, how will you see them? </p>
<p>So my question is what is the point of getting yourself worked up and wasting time you could spend studying and wasting money you could save toward a car just so that you can be with your so called "interest?"</p>
<p>And another question what is the deal with guys? For example, if they tell you that you have "niceeee legs" does that mean that they're interested in you? And if so, how come some guys dont do anything about it? LOL, I think in our current world a lot of men have turned into whimps. Or maybe not, just give me some opinions and feel free to chatter here about the ridiculous the actions of girls and guys.</p>
<p>Guys check out girls all the time, doesn't mean they want to date all the girls they look at. Most guys won't bother taking a girl out if they don't find the personality worth it.</p>
<p>But yes, most guy are pretty nervous about asking out girls, especially the ones they like. Rejection really hurts the pride.</p>
<p>I can tell you're a girl catsushi. It's obvious from the wording of your perspective, although its valid.</p>
<p>Let's just say, for better or worse, guys will forgive a lot in the personality department if you have "nicceeeee legs." Obviously there's a limit and its mostly younger college guys I'm talking about here.</p>
<p>"Rejection hurts the pride"? Haha... yes it does, but who can blame us? I think girls take rejection a bit worse, because it usually takes them by surprise and they hardly are so direct with their "crushes."</p>
<p>what's the point of having a relationship in college even if you're from 2 different places: You're going to be spending 4 years together, so that's still a pretty long time you can spend together if you decide to pursue a relationship before you guys need to end it because you're leaving college. And most college relationships are not going to last anywhere near that long.</p>
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I can tell you're a girl catsushi. It's obvious from the wording of your perspective, although its valid.</p>
<p>Let's just say, for better or worse, guys will forgive a lot in the personality department if you have "nicceeeee legs." Obviously there's a limit and its mostly younger college guys I'm talking about here.</p>
<p>"Rejection hurts the pride"? Haha... yes it does, but who can blame us? I think girls take rejection a bit worse, because it usually takes them by surprise and they hardly are so direct with their "crushes."
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<p>Good call. It also helps that I go to a women's college. I can't say whether girls take rejection worse, since I'm a girl and don't observe guys going through rejection much. I have seen some girls take rejection well and some other guys not take rejection well at all. Really depends on the person.</p>
<p>I'm currently experiencing that classic "two girls and a guy" situation. The three of us are friends, and I get mixed signals from him, but at the same time, he spends a lot of time with her as well. </p>
<p>I'm just letting our relationships go with the flow; I think it's blatantly obvious sometimes to everyone that pays any attention on our floor that I like him, but it's not so easy to tell with the two of them. I can't really tell whether she likes him, because her emotions are very hard to read; she doesn't show a very wide range of emotion and she's very sarcastic, so it's difficult to tell what she's actually feeling. </p>
<p>It's a bit frustrating, to be honest, but I don't want to wreck the dynamics of our friendship so I don't say anything. Being blunt hasn't exactly worked for me in the past, so I'm apprehensive about doing it again.</p>
<p>so does that mean you'll only stay with someone you think you'll be with forever? that's unrealistic, and most times people are wrong about who they end up with anyway. and people do get lonely. though some might find it a better investment to just pay for a prostitute... haha. jk. lastly, guys are a lot more literal than girls. when they say something, they most likely mean that thing. no hidden meanings usually.</p>
<p>hey Rhapsody.. if you've been friends with these two people for some time I would suggest that you don't ruin it. If your guyfriend hasn't been showing interest in you in "that" way I would highly recommend that you find someone else. I'm sure if you start hanging out with your guyfriends a lot you'll develop some feelings toward them, not all the time but sometimes. However, speaking from experience I think it would be best if you didn't say anything or did anything because it'll only make things awkward between you guys and your friendship will be on the line.</p>
<p>catsushi thanks for the feedback. The college I'm going to has about 95% "nerds" who focus on studies and nothing else, so it's kind of understandable why guys and girls here find it hard to approach eachother. Its an entirely different experience from high school, but you get used to it.</p>
<p>Still, day to day actions of guys, in general, are nevertheless very hard to understand. Like how some guys say that they can't understand the actions of girls, well.. its the same vice versa.</p>
<p>This is an age old question. To think like a guy just filter everything through sex. To think like a girl filter everything through genetics. You'll start to see the tip of the iceberg of the glacial phenomenon referred to as "Men are from Mars- Women are from Venus."</p>
hey Rhapsody.. if you've been friends with these two people for some time I would suggest that you don't ruin it. If your guyfriend hasn't been showing interest in you in "that" way I would highly recommend that you find someone else. I'm sure if you start hanging out with your guyfriends a lot you'll develop some feelings toward them, not all the time but sometimes. However, speaking from experience I think it would be best if you didn't say anything or did anything because it'll only make things awkward between you guys and your friendship will be on the line.</p>
<p>Hope that helps.
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<p>Thanks for the advice! I've decided not to say anything for the moment, but I'm thinking he's noticed. The last two conversations I've had alone with him have grown increasingly awkward and end with a "well, see you", unlike before. It's only when it's the three of us are together that the awkwardness disappears between us. :/</p>
<p>I haven't said anything, but it's not like he's blind, so maybe he picked up on something? Blargh. I hate awkwardness.</p>
<p>Rhapsody, unless you directly came out and "told" him that you liked him he's going to remain clueless.. guys don't pick up on "signals" or things that girls might consider "obvious signs." So, I'm thinking maybe you're the one who's feeling awkward, and as a result are making things awkward between the two of you guys. What do you think?</p>
<p>aigoo: guys probably pick up on more signals than you think. It depends on how socially adept/ aware the guy is.</p>
<p>Especially among friends b/c you can tell when something's changed. From recent personal experience - the whole "prolonged eye contact and not much talking" thing. I mean, sometimes you can cut the sexual tension in the room with a knife.</p>
<p>Or the "oops I'm touching you more often than usual" --- or oh, let me grab something behind you and accidentally lean my breasts on you.</p>
<p>Sometimes guys dont say anything because it's just too embrassingly adorable and you can't bring yourself to show the girl you've noticed. What are you going to do, smile and giggle at her after she doest something dopey like that? Just sayin,' haha.</p>