<p>well whenever he cries it's over me. and once when his beloved (and super expensive) camera got stolen in barcelona haha</p>
<p>I would rather have a man who cries occasionally than be in a relationship with an emotionally stunted, passionless drudge. I'll even give people some leeway over what is a cry-worthy offense... After all, there have been times when I'm so sleep-deprived, stressed, and otherwise unhappy that something externally insignificant will really get to me. That said, I'm not fond of anybody (male, female, romantic partner or no) laying thick the emo each and every day. </p>
<p>This whole "BAWW, girls don't like us crying! Hypocrites!" thing is just another manifestation of misogynistic self-annointed "nice guys" venting their sexual frustration by making blanket statements about all women instead of dissecting A. how our culture constructs rigid gender roles to the detriment of everybody, B. how men as well as women enforce standards of masculinity, and C. how the "nice guys" themselves individually contribute to the problem. Even more basically, they can't allow that some women do actually feel differently from what men perceive as the norm. </p>
<p>And my 2 cents on the whole "who pays?" debate:
On a formal date, the person doing the asking pays, whether that person is male or female.
In a relationship, when it's less formal, you can choose places within both of your price ranges and thereby go dutch, or alternate who pays.</p>
<p>If you're good looking, none of this matters. </p>
<p>Ugly guys can argue about whether it's better to buy woman or try to manipulate them through PUA techniques that don't work. In the end, ugly guys will always be screwed.</p>
<p>Also, "nice guy" means short/weak/ugly. There is no virtue in being short/weak/ugly. I used to harbor misogynist sentiments, until I realized the problem was me, not anybody else. Are you attracted to big, ugly girls? Didn't think so.</p>
<p>"If you're good looking, none of this matters.</p>
<p>Ugly guys can argue about whether it's better to buy woman or try to manipulate them through PUA techniques that don't work. In the end, ugly guys will always be screwed."</p>
<p>Ever take a close look at Donald Trump?</p>
<p>As far as looks go, most people lose them over time. If your relationships are based on looks, then it probably won't stand the test of time. There's a lot to be said for recognizing the character of another person as criteria for a relationship. Unfortunately teenagers are usually pretty bad at that. I guess college may provide some trial and error period to improve those skills without too much permanent damage.</p>
<p>^I agree with you. Even at 23, most disagree. They say 26 is the new 21, so we'll see. </p>
<p>And some (cute) girls, for whatever reason, don't care about looks. I think I've hooked up with all 3 of them. Actually, I think most girls don't intrinsically care about looks, but most are extremely self conscious about who they date.</p>
<p>If you've got the money, and you like the girl: pay for her.
If you don't: don't.</p>
<p>Honestly, I never expect guys to pay my way, but it's always nice when they do. And remember- the girl may not care, but she will tell her friends, whatever you do, and if you never pay for anything, everyone will think you're cheap.
at least, that's what my guy friends have said. I personally don't talk about the finances of the date, but i'm not the "typical girl" they were talking about i guess.</p>
<p>lesha, you can have emotions and be passionate without crying all the time. honestly, QQ......</p>
<p>This is including most females in general. Or the americanized ones</p>