<p>I don't know what to do and I feel absolutely terrible. I've known my friend a little longer than my boyfriend, and the funny thing is, I actually liked my friend first - but i thought he wasn't interested. Then, my boyfriend and I started going out more, and just recently got in a relationship. I have class with my friend and we study together after that with a couple others. So yesterday my boyfriend came to study with us and they met, but my friend was completely different and literally didn't talk to him the whole time. He was still talking and joking with me later through the day, but he hasnt answered my texts and i think he's really really hurt :'( I don't know what to do. Should I say something to him even though he never told me directly? I just feel so bad and need opinions :'(</p>
<p>Yes, friend sounds hurt to me.
Who are you really most interested in pursuing a relationship with?
If BF, things may cool off with friend. You may not be able to continue that relationship.</p>
<p>It’s not necessarily that bad. Speaking from experience, it’s extremely awkward when you first meet the boyfriend of a girl you knew previously. He’s sizing you up, wondering if you are a threat, and you’re slightly resentful of him and trying to avoid damaging your friendship with the girl. It’s likely that your friend will just fine once he’s had a chance to get to know your boyfriend.</p>
<p>See that’s why i feel so terrible because i was kind of unsure when i found out, since it was something i had stopped considering awhile ago when i figured it was never going to happen. But…I love my boyfriend. i think it might be just a “what if things had happened differently…” feeling. I really don’t want to lose the friendship, he’s one of my best friends :’( I just don’t know if I should tell him that i’m sorry and i didn’t know? He never told me, so i don’t know how i should acknowledge it. Should i say anything at all? :(</p>
<p>Oh thank you YonderMountain, that really helps :)</p>
<p>He might just need some time to come to terms with this new person in your life (especially if he wanted to be that person). I had something similar happen to me when my new bf and I started going out (although the other guy made his feelings to me QUITE clear- it was just too late). He stopped talking to me for a month or so and now we’re back to being close friends. </p>
<p>Let him get used to the situation. If it continues for a long while, bring it up. For now, I’m sure he’s just adjusting :).</p>
<p>Yeah, he probably is a little hurt, but as far as we can tell you didn’t do anything wrong. Just give him some time to come around, and if he doesn’t maybe then talk to him. Don’t tell him you used to like him though! That could get reaaaaally messy. </p>
<p>If the friendship is important, then it’ll bounce back. I’ve always had a lot of close guy friends, and sometimes when I get into a new relationship or they do the friendship dynamics will get a little funky, but it adjusts.</p>
<p>thank you roman and kenzie!! that helped a lot. i definitely wouldn’t say i used to like him if it comes to that, because it would only make it worse. I think it’ll be ok though, i’ve just been beating myself up all day. :)</p>
<p>Sad as it is on his part, this is just a case of a missed chance. Doesn’t seem like you personally did anything wrong. He just didn’t make a move. It happens like that sometimes. Give him some time to adjust. He might stop hanging out with you as much, but don’t be alarmed by it. I wouldn’t be surprised if he needed some space and he probably wants to focus on other things now.</p>
<p>Yeah Nano just give it some time :). it’s definitely not your fault, and it’s too bad for him.</p>
<p>Depends on how important you were to him, but i mean, there are plenty of fish in the sea.</p>
<p>If he doesn’t end up lightening up, he’s a little ***** in my books. you’re good friends with him though, so i’ll assume hes not that kind of guy.</p>
<p>You can assume best out of any of us. You know him.</p>
<p>Good luck with your boyfriend!</p>
<p>thanks guys that really helped a lot 
he’s actually starting to come around already. i think it’ll all be good in time :)</p>