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<p>I don't know about you guys, but that dollar menu of McDonalds is awesome. You can get 3 cheeseburgers and a coke for less than 5 bucks! Unbelievable!</p>
<p>Wow, 4 items on the dollar menu for less than 5 dollars. Who would have thought.</p>
<p>Hahahahaha</p>
<p>is it true that the only college that most asian parentz no about is harvard?</p>
<p>Yeah dude. The most academically-oriented group of parents in the world only know of one school. In fact, my parents take the initiative to plug their ears if any other college comes up in the conversation, and close their eyes whenever they pass a community college in the car. This latter also seems to be a contributing factor to the idea that we also can't drive.</p>
<p>Haha, that sounds like my parents. Only with my career. They've said, and I quote, "it doesn't matter if you go to Harvard. You can go to Harvard and become a janitor." I wanted to say something like, "you mean Matt Damon?" but I don't think they would have gotten it. Hahaha. And not that it REALLY applies but. Anyway.</p>
<p>I totally agree. I completely resent and hate my parents, not for pushing me, but for ridiculing and condescending me if I desire something different from what they want. My situation is VERY similar to yours (higher income family, beloved and stupider sibling, etc.) and post-college, I probably will never choose to see my parents or any member of my family again if I can help it. The other day, my parents were making fun of me and saying how I would end up asking for money from my brother (the idiot sibling) who follows whatever they say and does whatever they want. (e.g. For the next 15 minutes, he's planning on becoming an accountant but right now he's failing math and he has had to buy books to help him. Not that I'm looking down on anyone who has to do that but how realistic of a goal is accounting?? On the other hand, I'm in Honors Precalculus AB and AP Stats, which not stellar, are better than his regular math classes which he's FAILING IN.)</p>
<p>It's funny. They think they're helping you, but in the end, they end up isolating you and they STILL don't achieve their ends.</p>
<p>Oh well. Some Asian parents really do suck =/</p>
<p>Wow, this thread is STILL going? I remember posting in this half a year ago.</p>
<p>Eh, there's nothing we can do until we are financially independent. Sadly, that's the truth.</p>
<p>its funny how. i was the one who told my parents that im going to Princeton.</p>
<p>This thread is hilarious at times. But it is interesting to hear first hand about the hatred and resentment Asian kids have toward their parents. Almost as much as the American kids have, even though the Asian parents think they are loved more by their kids because of their culture. It is the same everywhere, kids hate their parents!</p>
<p>so racist, but yet so funny:</p>
<p>haha at CTY this summer (i took crafting the essay - a creative nonfiction course) and i wrote about a fight i had with my parents last yr as a freshman... my parents are all about harvard... and i kinda have an obsession with princeton... but for them princeton isn't good enough. yeah, beats me too.</p>
<p>asian parents...they can be psychotic. Sorry to you guys that suffer. Just keep a level head. Follow your dreams and aspirations but don't becomes so stubborn that you don't take some of their good advice as well. They think this is the best for you, but prove to them that you are mature and can make the right decisions without following their exact map.
My parents are actually pretty relaxed. They want me to do good, but they say that happiness is most important. Do your best, and that's all they want. If Harvard, great. If not, so be it. As long as you're happy with your life.</p>
<p>I wish what you said was true.......</p>
<p>After reading some of these posts, I'm glad my parents are the way they are. They just care that I'm trying my hardest. They know I will end up picking a good college,and that I will have made the right decisions. They've known for a long time I'm a very self-motivated person, and know that "Harvard" isn't the only way to succeed at life. The only part they have to do is pay the bills :). Which I am more than happy to hand over to them.</p>
<p>haha, KSAzN,
thats exactly how my parents are too. infact i even used to complain that they dint motivate me enough, but that's just coz they think/know i can take care of myself. reading the other posts, i'm just glad they're the way they are. however, my parents are typically asian regarding other things; like being extremely over-protective, and not approving of dating, and stuff like that. but whatever, i'll be free in a year!</p>
<p>My parents were absolutely shocked when I told them I wanted to major in history. My father said 'I'm not paying $40,000 a year so that you could be unemployed after college. Do something USEFUL!' Now it's okay, but only so long as I go to a law school afterwards. Every time I call home or my parents call me, they remind that I will attend a law school. It makes me want to throw the phone out of the window.
Sometimes it does really feel like I'm being raised as a trophy, so that my parents can tell their relatives and friends their son went to an Ivy League school, became a lawyer and makes a lot of money. They don't seem to understand that becoming a lawyer would not make me happy. I'm holding my tongue until I've got my BA, and then I'll tell them what I want to do with my life. If they can't agree, then obviously my personal happiness is not their concern and I'll do whatever is necessary to free myself (i.e. leave). My family hasn't exactly been a happy one anyway, and I won't be too sad to go.</p>
<p>heythatslife: As years roll by, your family will come around to accepting your career choices . So, don't worry! Make your own choices and be happy. I can understand it if the parents worry about the kid getting into bad habits (e.g., drugs) and steer him/her to the right path. But telling the kid to study in a major that is not even of interest to him/her, is just beyond the pale.</p>
<p>I hope it works out okay too. Falling out altogether with my family would be the last resort.
But one of my uncles got really angry with my grandparents for interfering with his life at every turn and left the family (and so my grandparents disowned him... might have been the other way round but that doesn't make a difference), which was sad as he was my favorite uncle. Ah well, maybe it runs in the family.</p>
<p>I totally understand how you feel about this. I live with my mom and my dad won't contribute to college because I don't see him at all. My mom told me that if I go to college too far away (meaning further than three hours away from home that she would not help me at all either. But I've known for as long as I can remember that I want to go to MIT, which is on the other side of the country. So I'm applying anyway, and I figure that if she wants to screw me over, then that's her problem and I can get through it anyway (besides, the less money I have, the better, right?). Not to mention the fact that my parents always telling me "no" and "you can't" has always made me achieve much higher.</p>
<p>aw_rootbeer1, before you write your mom off as a potential finance contributor, how do you plan to fund your MIT education? By taking loans? I am not sure, but you may need somebody to stand as a guarantor for that. Your best bet is to convince your mom about your dream.</p>