<p>My parents' English isn't half bad. I know when they're mad at me because they start speaking to me in English, probably out of worried frustration that I'm not "understanding" them. Also, every argument/lecture/"discussion" usually leads to a financial comparison between my dad and my dad's coworkers. He loves his white "brothers" but he still tells me that I shouldn't be a "stupid" American and better be good with money.</p>
<p>Also for a while they were against Georgetown because they thought it would be too high-strung elitist and full of white people. I've finally (sort of) convinced them otherwise.</p>
<p>Oh- they think being a businesswoman/lawyer is a very "unstable" line of work, and that I should pursue something more stable. Like dentistry.</p>
<p>Sigh... all in all, they're not too bad. :-)</p>
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<p>Haha, I have Chinese parents and the only things I can say in Chinese are
"wo yau tse bing chi ling" (I want to eat ice cream)
"byeh jiang hwa" (shut up)
and "bun sooh uh" (stupid)</p>
<p>It's rather sad since my brothers and sisters are all semi-fluent...but I got pulled out of Chinese school to go do programming and electronics on Saturdays.</p>
<p>But yeah, at least it means they speak English to me. Unless they're trying to say something behind my back. In which case I usually know what they're saying from context (they insert random English words in their sentences, so it ends up like "kfdjfka jfkdjfkdj jfdkfjk Jessica djfkdj...djkfdjkfj obese fdjfkd fjkdjfkd grades djfkdjfkd.")</p>
<p>Also, they yell at me for going to Chinese buffets to eat the rice and egg drop soup while they gorge themselves on stone crab. I'm so Americanized. :)</p>
<p>Any Asians thinking of returning to their 'home-land' ( I mean ur parents country, and in that way ur native land?) I know most would say NO WAY! But still just curious how the discussion goes! (well, the ones who grew up in the US and other foreign countries are unlikely to return but how 'bout those who came to the States for about a two or three years?!)</p>
<p>My mom doesn't understand senioritis. I NEED straight As (even after getting into Penn and having Bs in 10th grade). Every time I tell her that I am not in the top 5% she starts screaming that I need to do better (don't blame me, blame grade inflation). When I told her I never joined NHS, she lost it. </p>
<p>I also think she is bipolar because throughout the summer she told me she would send me to the best college I got into regardless of fit (unless I'm choosing between like Harvard and Yale) and that cost was not a problem. In mid October we get a free app from Tulane. I throw it away because I don't really want to apply, but suddenly I NEED scholarships to college (at this point I had 4 colleges on my list that offered nonathletic merit aid and I had no shot at any of it except for my safety) so I get colleges like Tulane, GW, etc added to my list. I would have been much happier going to UMD, but UMD isn't good enough for my parents (even though they praise how cheap it is) and I NEED to get a good scholarship to college because we can't afford it all of a sudden. They were also the ones who encouraged me to apply ED knowing that it is binding. This whole application season was one big rollercoaster ride. First we argue about where I'm applying early. Then we argue where else I am applying. Then we argue about finances (apparently we can afford to go to any college, but need merit aid). Then we argue about fit and visits (both my parents just went wherever college was free and didn't visit before moving in day and never thought about fit so I don't have to either). Then when I got in we argued about how I should have looked for scholarships when we got 0 Fin Aid. Now they think I am going to be rescinded.</p>
<p>The only positive about her was that she never pushed me to take harder classes than my capacity and even kept me from taking classes that were way over my head (AP English, AP Spanish, etc).</p>
<p>On a side note, my dad was pressuring me to apply to Princeton (we visited the day after we saw Penn). This would be normal for a parent wanting their child to go to a great college, but he is a Wharton grad. He is supposed to hate Princeton. I'm getting his head checked.</p>
<p>I love my (chinese) parents, they are the best parents in the world, I don't mean to sound like I'm bragging, but it seems like they're the opposite of what everyone is saying here. They seem to be the typical Asian parents by casual glance, I mean, they are both engineers and both started me on things like violin. And of course, they always pushed me to do my best in school and stuff, but they never made me uncomfortable. </p>
<p>Come college time, they never pressured me into applying to any Ivy leagues or anything. They might have mentioned it like twice that I should try, but when I said "What if I just go to the state university?" they just said "that's totally fine too, you can be successful anywhere!" They would have been satisfied with me just going to our state university. When I was doing my college apps, my dad never once asked me about them or looked at them, and I made my list of place myself. I'm going to Penn actually though, lol, but I wanted to, not them making me.</p>
<p>My dad is great though, he recognizes the fact that you don't have to go to a brandname college to be successful (though he went for UW-Madison for grad school, which probably is somewhat 'brandname'? He also got accepted to Stanford, but never went.). That's what I like about him.</p>
<p>I don't get why you guys complain. You're lucky. Most of your parents are in a better than average financial situation, push you at young ages to do great things in your life so, get you started early in various activities so that you'll excel in them when you get older, and stay on top of your academics. Plus the language barrier doesn't present that big of a problem for you all in comparison to Hispanics.</p>
<p>chinese parents..1st generation...and i must say...asians parents aren't that bad...sure they want me to work hard and get the good grades...but it isn't so big a deal...being happy and healthy is on the top of the list...at least its what i think...as for colleges...they want me to go to a good college and study hard to get into one but they feel that success in life doesn't mean going to a great college...if u r 'life smart' then u'll become successful any way...so for me...asian parents aren't too bad</p>
<p>wow this thread basically sums up my life (i love my parents even though they drive me crazy sometimes)</p>
<p>-started SAT "studying" summer of 6th grade
-straight A's or..... a bamboo stick (ha jk)
-at least 2300 on sats
-harvard or mcdonalds ("ivy league is always the best")
-ive only went out 3 times this whole year with my friends... and its realllly hard to study when you know that your friends are partying it up at an anberlin concert</p>
<p>but i think the pressure that they place on me is the same amount of pressure that i place on myself. and overall, im happy that they do want me to succeed.... but i sometimes wish that they werent so stubborn with their opinions</p>
<p>^Rabbits, Asians, they both have overpopulation problems.</p>
<p>For my mom Penn Arts and Sciences isn't worth the money. She really wants me to transfer to Wharton or our local state school. Glad to see an Ivy isn't good enough for her.</p>