<p>haha you guys are funny. My brother is already studying for the SATs and hes in the 5th grade. Asian parents haha.</p>
<p>I think Asian parents really depend on the family. Some Asian parents are really, really, really grinding. Others are pretty open-minded and liberal with things compared to others.</p>
<p>My parents are convinced that pre-professionalism, non-intellectualism is the way to go, and that it's Ivy League or nothing. I detest this mindset, but it's the way they are. I've argued with them a million times, but they'll never change their minds no matter how much I attempt to give them logical reasoning. Fortunately, they don't freak out when I get a B. I've never gotten a C before, but they've had experience (with my older brother), so if I ever do get one, it won't be like other parents who lock you up in your room.</p>
<p>I think the most benefit of having Asian parents is the fact that they push you so hard. It's extremely helpful, if you think about it. I have a lot of drive myself, but a lot of it comes from the pressure from my parents.</p>
<p>The downfall is just the same though. Koreans specifically are really rooted in professionalism. You get to the top, go to the best college with the best name, get the highest-paying job, marry the girl/guy with a wealthy living who is nice and respectful, then live a wealthy lavish life where your parents can brag all about you and live under your name and wealth. They're mostly conservative as well, and it's very difficult to change their mindset. Very, very difficult. You could give them ALL the facts, and they still wouldn't budge. That's just the way it is with them. So when you pair conservative, traditional parents with a liberally-raised kid, it gets to be a tough relationship.</p>
<p>LOL. I remember seeing an argument between my friend and her parents when her mom (very heavy Korean accent) said "YOU GO STANFORD! YOU GO STANFORD AND YOU BE ENGINEER! WORK AT GOOGLE! <em>unintelligible Korean chatter</em>".</p>
<p>LMAO! Harvard or McDonalds!</p>
<p>Did your brother atleast apply for the ivy league? </p>
<p>I think your dad feels like you are his last hope.</p>
<p>Anyway, if I were you, I'd apply and not worry about anything even if I don't get in.</p>
<p>Hm, it seems alot of Asian parents who stifle their kids social lives screw them over.</p>
<p>In the real world, being able to talk to people is more important than 20 points on your SATs. No one wants to work with someone who is anti-social. I'm not sayin that being a hardworker and being a fun, sociably person is mutually exclusive, but parents who are constricting tend to make it that way.</p>
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<p>I think your dad feels like you are his last hope.</p>
<p>Anyway, if I were you, I'd apply and not worry about anything even if I don't get in.
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<p>No my brother did not apply to any Ivy Leagues. He only applied to 3 schools, the most prestige probably USC (denied) or UW (which is where he is and where we now had to move to Washington because of the damn out-of-state, in-state tuition differences that they expect me to happily move and want to go to UW. Sorry, bitterness.), but he didn't have the grades to go to any Ivy Leagues, and his mindset isn't really to go to an Ivy League either.</p>
<p>My dad probably does feel like I am his last hope, but really, he has two kids only, one of them me. That's not that much. </p>
<p>I don't know for sure where I'm applying. I am applying to top tier schools, because unlike my brother I have the grades, extracurriculars, and desire to go to a better school than UW. But we'll see. I wouldn't be surprised or unhappy if I wasn't excepted to Harvard or any other Ivy League. It'd be a dissapointment, but I wouldn't go crazy unlike some. It doesn't matter that much to me. I just don't want to go to UW. I'm not a big fan of Seattle. Sadly, that's what's most likely going to happen..... I'm just thankful I'm not one of the jerks and nerds who spend all of their time studying and don't hang out at all, and have no friends. That would just be sad.</p>
<p>If any Asian parents are reading this, you need to really stop bugging us. It's a stereotype, but for the most part, the craziness and pressure from Asian parents is really true.</p>
<p>Again, they DO have reasons for this right? (no, I ain't a parent!)</p>
<p>The worst part...when they always say: "Hey, all the kids of my co-workers are doing great, what about YOU?"</p>
<p>sometimes, I feel like some of you guys too. my parents are Asian (Bangladeshi), but they're pretty lax on me relative to other asian parents. I've noticed that the most hardcore parents tend to be eastern asians whereas south asian parents are much more liberal and understanding. would I get killed for a B? well, I've gotten my share of Bs and im still alive. A C? yeah, I would run and hide. anyway, I think asian parents simply wan tot see their kids do well in society and a good education is generally a surefire way of doing that.</p>
<p>Seriously. I have no trouble with my parents (One Viet, the other Mex), but my aunt and uncle (both Viet) are a different story--one's a college advisor, the other has multiple engineering degrees. When I told them that I wanted to be a math teacher, they were dumbstruck. They asked me why I would want to lower myself to a position like teaching and that it's an "easy" job. I mean WTH. Obtaining a master's in math and education is certainly not "easy." When we started talking about APs, my aunt mentioned her sister--she got a couple threes and one five. Well those couple of threes weren't considered passing grades. I was like..."It depends on the college and..." Zippo. It was an open-close case. I didn't dare mention that I had gotten a three on my APHUSH exam (the only AP class I had signed up for junior year). Grrr. Asian relatives make me mad!! I'm just hoping I got a four on the calc exam so they can shutup and leave me alone!</p>
<p>I have a friend who has no say in which college he's going to. well he doesn't really care anyway, his parents do everything for him. they decide what colleges what majors he's going to do. I won't be surprise if they're gonna do the applying and college visiting. basically the parents are doing everything for him. and yes they're asians.
other typical asian parent things at my school: some kids are not allow to socialize right after school, have to go home right away and study. study, study and study! its crazy when I hear about it, some never been to sleepovers or gone to the movie with their friends! and sports is like a big no-no cause they think it destroys their grades. its funny how they're so grade concious, they rather have a horrible teacher who give them bad grades, then a good teacher who give you the grades you deserve.</p>
<p>I know some Asian kids who killed themselves... sort of due to academic pressure... =/</p>
<p>I guess the Asian kids at my school are an anomaly (or at least don't fit the stereotype). Most play sports, are actually quite social, and manage high grades. :P</p>
<p>i love my asian parents to death =]</p>
<p>my parents think that if i get a 2200 SAT score, i can get into anywhere. </p>
<p>sheesh.</p>
<p>ditto jenkkie</p>
<p>There's another school in the same district that is more insane than my school. It's full of super-bright Asian kids and it has a cut-throat competitive atmosphere. Like sky7walker's comment, it fit well to this school. Not that all Asian parents from this school are like that per se, but a handful of them definitely are. I've heard stories that a 2300 is a "horrible" score and a 4.0 is "normal." </p>
<p>I am Asian too, and I everytime I hear this, it's just shocking. I just don't get how parents can be like this and/or how kids can live up with such high expectations/demands. It's burdensome. Totally. </p>
<p>Whenever I talk about colleges with my Asian friends, they're all about HYPSC and etc. I am like "whatever dude." Not that I don't care about colleges at all. I do. But I don't see the real purpose of dying and sacrificing so much to get into a "good brand-name" school. I talk about colleges like Kenyon and Colgate (can you see I focus on liberal arts schools? :])</p>
<p>But Asian Americans as a whole are generally smarter than ASIAN Asians, since... part of the reason why they're IN America in the first place is because they were among the smartest and/or most hardworking people in China/Korea/etc in the first place. That's how they got the opportunity to come to America, right? :P
So it'd only make sense that Asian Americans are all into the "get into HYP or else" mentality... haha... because that's what the parents did back in their homeland for the most part.</p>
<p>Haha, very true, explode.</p>
<p>I'm Asian, but my parents have gotten a bit more lenient about grades .. I mean sure they're disappointed when they see an 'A' not 'A+' but they don't throw tantrums or threaten to beat me or anything. </p>
<p>But I'm glad that I don't have parents who are happy with 'A-'. Because I try to do THE BEST I can in school and why settle for an A- if you are an A+ student? I have high standards of myself and I have to thank my Asian parents for them.</p>
<p>Well... one girl at my school was pulled out because she wasn't making straight A's :/</p>