<p>I'm a guy, and I'm just curious on general first impressions for guy to guy, when meeting a new person, and you might wanna be friends with him, right upon meeting somebody new, lets say at a job interview, school, or better yet - in the school at a random place, i.e., the bookstore, library, what first impression usually does it for you to think to yourself hey, this is a cool guy, seems my type, I'd like to be friends with him?</p>
<p>I know this sounds awkward, but its just a curiosity I have in my mind as to what guys generally like to see other guys respond or act like and would make them think that this seems like a cool guy and I want to be his friend.</p>
<p>Sometimes it can depend on the situation or setting, but generally speaking what does it for you on your first vocal interaction with another guy to make it seem you want to be his friend? Example; tone of voice, confidence level in voice, et cetera. Thanks in advance.</p>
<p>I know what you mean. I’m interested in being friends with guys who have class (dress well, says entire word, doesn’t wear hat indoors, etc…) or are from the east coast.</p>
<p>I hate it when people talk too much. I don’t mind much with girls, but some guys don’t know when to shut up. Also, it’s weird when the other person is extremely shy (not the same as being quiet, which I think is okay) and does not know how to have a half-decent conversation or say something. These are types of people I try and avoid.</p>
<p>First impression is if the guy seems funny and/or friendly, if he seems like he would be fun to hang out with, if he is similar in style and agenda, and if he seems like someone I can roll with as crew members or someone I can be friends with but not roll with as a crew. First impressions don’t guarantee anything though…a guy can seem like a possible friend at first but over time that might not be the case.</p>
<p>I never think “X looks cool, I want to be friends with X” and make a conscious effort to do so. I treat most people I interact with the same at the beginning, as strangers. If we happen to spend a lot of time together and click and become buddies, so be it, and if not, then nothing happens.</p>
<p>Then again, I am a rather anti-social person, so feel free to ignore me if you want.</p>
<p>Nobody thinks about first impressions if they don’t have the time, so the key to making good first impressions is to not let people think about them until afterwards. If you ask others questions that are atypical and that they’ll spend time talking about, that will give the impression that you’re an interesting person, or at the very least, care about what the person you’re talking to is saying. The most basic stock response is “what’s your major” or “what are you studying?”. </p>
<p>Better questions would come from the situation: “do you like/what do you think about [insert the subject or author of the book the person is holding here]?” in the bookstore or library, “what do you think of prof. [insert relevant professor here]?”, at a subject-oriented club, or my personal favorite–“hey I’m doing a study on [insert easily-relatable subject here], do you mind if I ask you some questions?” This one allows you to take the conversation wherever you want it to go provided you ask the right questions. Of course, this isn’t for all situations, so your mileage may vary. The best thing to do is ask about the surroundings or the particular environment you’re in–if they weren’t interested in weightlifting, they probably wouldn’t be in the gym, so ask them how much they can bench and after you take the conversation to a more comfortable place (technique, protein shakes, another subject, whatever), then you’ll have a lock on your first impression.</p>
Well, in my case:
I’m pretty much a sociopath who can feel guilt lol. Which means that I tend to gravitate towards people who remind me of myself. For example, I like people from the east coast because I’m from DC.
Also, (from my personal experience) people from the east coast are more formal and have more class than people from the west coast.</p>
<p>^ Interesting…That makes sense. I wonder what people from the west coat are like. I never thought about that because all I know is people from the east coast.</p>
<p>If the guy has a clean sense of humor and comes across as friendly and not too stuck up, I could be friends with him
That being said, I come across as the EXACT opposite of that to most people, so they say…
first impressions aren’t always what they seem.</p>