Haven't talked to her for a year, would msging her on facebook be weird?

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<p>After two rejections for prom and an ask out, I have lost interest in all girls at my school. At that point, I recalled this one girl who I wanted to catch up with but never did. Now, I'm seriously considering doing just that!</p>

<p>I met this girl in instructors class last year March break. She was cute and all but it was a crash course so I only saw her for five days. Since then, I haven't seen or talked to her. (I have liked a couple of her photos on facebook but that's about it)</p>

<p>I have her as a friend on facebook and I was wondering if you guys think it'd be weird to message her now? </p>

<p>Just trying to get her number and get things going, eventually asking her to prom after touching base for a bit. </p>

<p>Thanks</p>

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<p>I don’t know, but in general I think people worry too much about seeming weird and it would probably be fine to message her. </p>

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<p>I agree with halcyonheather.</p>

<p>It’s only weird if you make it weird.</p>

<p>If you’re confident and can hold a conversation, it’ll be fine.</p>

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<p>Nope - it is way too weird. I think it might be bordering a cultural taboo. If you want to ensure that this girl will never look you in the eye for the rest of your time on God’s good earth, go ahead and message her. If you want to salvage what little pride, honor, and dignity you have, refrain from messaging her, delete your facebook, and move to Utah. The Church of Latter Day Saints is calling, OP, are you going to answer? </p>

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<p>lol OP, no offense but these threads make you sound thirsty af. Anyways, to help, just be friendly and go down the train which may crash and burn or take you to the light at the end of the tunnel.</p>

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<p>@apandia</p>

<p>lol you betcha! ;). </p>

<p>@ preamble1776</p>

<p>LOL damn if only I could hear your tone! I assume sarcasm?</p>

<p>Thanks for the advice guys! Any more?</p>

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<p>@Mandophon - haha, be sure to drive straight to the hoop though, otherwise you may end up in the dreaded friend zone :/</p>

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<p>@apandia </p>

<p>Meaning get some small talk but get to the point sooner rather than later?</p>

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<p>Have you met her only once? Just catch up with her, like you said, small talk but kind of hint at what the plan is until she gets it.</p>

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<p>I met her last yr march break for a lifeguard instructors class (where you learn how to teach kids strokes). We didn’t really talk until the last three days of class (class was only 5 days, it was a crash coruse). From what I was able to make out and looking at her facebook profile, she’s pretty popular. </p>

<p>I already have an idea in mind as to how I’d hint it but I think I should eventually straight out ask! don’t you agree?</p>

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<p>Last year is a while, imagine someone contacting you after a year and asking you out. Do you know if she’s already with someone else but didn’t/hasn’t posted it on fb? If she’s popular and attractive, chances are she’s w/ someone. Don’t ask straight out dude, that’s creepy, 20-30 mins of chatting is sufficient.</p>

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<p>I have a serious gut feeling she isn’t dating someone. So you think I should ask her to prom the same conversatio or the same day I message her? LOL CORUSE NOT GOING TO ASK HER STRAIGHT UP! I said I plan to build up conversation before EVENTUALLY asking her! </p>

<p>I want to ask her to prom over phone, where she can hear my voice and i can hear hers. imo, asking over text/IM is a weak way of asking someone. That would take more than one conversation, I’d have to get her number first!</p>

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<p>Did you know that Facebook actually lets you see if someone’s in a relationship or not?</p>

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<p>lol yes I know that and it says shes married to a girl. All of her profile pics are her in a dance rehearsal or with other little kids. No one on one shot with guys. I know she doesn’t have a boyfriend, I’m just wondering if it would be weird for me to message her now after a year of no communcations!</p>

<p>I want to ask her to prom. I’m trying not to overthink this like last time but basically I’m only messaging her on facebook to catch up, get her number, text a bit, flirting here and there and then calling her, asking her to prom. </p>

<p>Seeing as I don’t see her in person, calling is the closest I can get to asking her one on one</p>

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<p>Your plan sounds great to me. Keep us updated.</p>

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<p>“lol yes I know that and it says shes married to a girl” - that brought me back to my middle school days when me and my best friend were married on Facebook and had our other friends as children, LOL. Good times, good times.</p>

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<p>@preamble1776 - HA! I’m a dude, but 90% of freshman girls at my school are still “married”, apparently it’s normal now.</p>

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<p>So I messaged her today at lunch. I messaged her. “Hey *girls name! Can’t believe its been a year since instructors! How have you been?”</p>

<p>She replies back almost immediately. “Hahaha, been busy with school work, hbu?”</p>

<p>I replied back “Tell me about it! So stressed about post secondary applications you know?”</p>

<p>I sent that at around noon. She saw it at 1:26pm but didn’t reply back.</p>

<p>Should I message her again tomorrow or does that mean she doesn’t want to talk to me?</p>

<p>Thanks</p>

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<p>It does not mean she does not want to talk to you. </p>

<p>Wait to see if she responds tomorrow. If she doesn’t then message her tomorrow night, but be sure to have a reason/something to talk about (ostensible or real, doesn’t matter).</p>