Having a terrible social life at college, and I'm on the verge of dropping out

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<p>Hi,</p>

<p>So I'm a senior at a top public school, but have had a terrible experience. I know that there's no one to blame but myself. I used to have a lot of friends here but after having many conversations with a family member who is now estranged from our family, I became phobic about the friends that I did and lost all my communication skills. I am really in a rut here. I can hardly even stand to be literally on the campus, I just want to run away and not see anyone. I don't know how to cope with feeling like an outsider when at one point I was loving it here. It's completely my fault... I don't know what to do. I'm ashamed to admit to my old friends who I pushed away that I'm actually failing my classes because I'm not talking to them anymore. They all have their own lives and I'm such a loser now...Please. Some outside perspective. I'm 21 years old... and extremely confused and scared. I have no close friendships from high school or younger, and now it's like I don't have any close friendships from all my time spent at college and it's like devastating to me. Like I said, I can't stand being on the campus, as I'm ashamed to see one of my old friends, and my first gut instinct is to apologize for ignoring them and being such a snob, but I can't take the humiliation of being on that campus. Of course, people are nice and polite to me but it's just not the same as having real connections and relationships the way that I used to. It's like I can't stand myself and the person that I am. I felt guilty because I didn't have good grades and so I secluded myself from everyone but what that ended up doing was just make me feel alienated and my grades got worse. Now I'm on the verge of withdrawing from the university.</p>

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<p>Have you been to the college health center and/or counseling center? I think that would be a really good place to start. They talk to a lot of students who are in situations like yours, and can help you sort out your options and possibly ways to improve things. Don’t drop out, if you are a senior you are close to getting your degree. Go see them tomorrow if you have a break in your classes, or make an appointment if one is needed.</p>

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<p>If that family member is now estranged, why does anything that they said even matter at all? Also, (and I dont mean to be nosy) what did they say that made you become so antisocial? </p>

<p>I’m not sure what to say because I don’t really know what you were told; I’d like to know so that I can give you some advice. But If you don’t want to say anything then I completely understand, and you may want to seek counseling.</p>

<p>But whatever you do, please dont drop out. You’re way too close to the finish line and theres nothing wrong with trying to make things right with your old friends.</p>

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<p>Do you have a school health center/counselor? Talk to someone. Sure it’s not going to magically solve your problems, but you sound like you’re in dire need of a paradigm shift. </p>

<p>If you’re a Senior, that would mean you have like half of semester left and do you really want to give up and throw it all away at this point because you don’t have any friends there? You’re almost at the end of the finish line, I WISH I could say the same.</p>

<p>Geez, most CC kids are so privileged they don’t know what to do with themselves in these “First World problem” situations hit them.</p>

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<p>This has to be a ■■■■■ thread, nobody’s that stupid.</p>