Having Second Thoughts

<p>So recently I've been unsure about my decision to come to the college I'm currently at. I haven't really made many friends yet, and it seems like everyone else has. I've only been here for two weeks, and I know that doesn't seem like a long time but I guess I just thought it would be a little different.</p>

<p>When I was choosing schools it came down to two:
one school in Boston
one in the Bronx in New York</p>

<p>I'm currently at school in Boston, which I do like. I love the city of Boston and I like being closer to home (though I don't plan to go home too often). However, a few things lately have been making me wonder if the sacrifice in distance would've been worth my experience at the New York school. I've gone to Catholic school my entire life, and for the first time I'm not at one. The school in New York is catholic, but I choose to with the non-catholic school for other reasons. Now, however, I'm kind of starting to miss the feel and vibe of a catholic school. I went to my schools catholic center meeting, but not a lot of people were there, so I guess I was kind of disappointed.</p>

<p>Also, I don't really party. I don't drink or smoke or anything like that, and I prefer it that way. The problem is that so far I've only met two other people like me here (one being my roommate, so I got extremely lucky on that front). It seems like we're all alone in not wanting to drink. I would think that in a class of nearly 3000 there would be more than just the 3 of us, but it almost seems that way. I also recently discovered that the other school I was considering apparently has a substance free dorm that typically forms a close knit community. From what I've heard it would've been something I liked a lot. Its something I wish I had known to consider when choosing schools. My current dorm seems to be full of partiers, and I don't know a lot of them. People hang out in the common room a lot, but whenever I go in there I feel a bit awkward. I'm not so sure my personality really meshes much with a lot of the people on my floor. I guess I was just kind of hoping for my dorm to be really close.
The size of my school is a little overwhelming, though its not necessarily a negative. Academically I still really like my school. I just feel kind of lost socially. So what do you think? Is it normal for me to feel this way? Is it just a "grass is always greener" thing? I know I should probably just give it more time, but it just seems hopeless right now.
Any advice?</p>

<p>A part of college is meant to teach you that you can’t run from every situation in life when it gets a bit difficult. I think yeah as a freshman your feelings are normal.</p>

<p>I suppose you’re probably right. Anyone else have any input? Just curious what other people think about the situation.</p>

<p>It’s very normal. At a school that size there are bound to be more people like you. Some people may find a group of friends in two weeks, but a lot of people don’t. Talk to the staff at the Newman Center. They can probably put you in touch with other kids- particularly upperclass students who have been through this and made their way. Or go the counselling center. They will be happy to help. You can always transfer, but give it a few months before you decide.</p>