<p>Separation anxiety is a control issue where the patient does not adjust to the lack of an entity that s/he does not have control over. In most cases it is child who has parent under control (at least in his/her mind). Never seen it in a family where parents are firmly in control of their own lives and agenda.</p>
<p>As daughter of friend develops relationships (peers, instructors) where she can feel in control of getting her self-doubts (we all have them), she will break the need for the parental safety net.</p>
<p>Friend needs to redirect her daughter's activities towards social interaction where she will gain the necessary self-confidence. Needs new BFF.</p>
<p>Abusive phone calls are a sign that the level of attachment/anxiety is toxic. Need to limit conversations to positive things at school. No talk of home from friend, just keep directing the subject at what daughter is doing at school.</p>