<p>I'm looking for some advice.</p>
<p>My daughter moved into college two days ago, the campus is just under an hour away, and she is having profound difficulty transitioning.</p>
<p>Her mother and I have been divorced for 8 years, but we have always lived in the same town, she grew up in a school district where she new everyone k-12. Initially she considered going to community college because she felt it would be better for her to ease her way into college, I supported that decision, but her mother and mother's family pressured her to visit many universities and made her feel community college was for "loosers". Fast forward, Her mother moved very far away a month ago to start a new job, my daughter moved in with me and my wife. Her boyfriend of 3 years broke up with her 3 weeks ago, she had to give up a job she really likes, and a week ago she revealed to me that she really did not want to move away to college, and that she was only going because of the pressure from her mother and that side of the family...but that it's unquestionably NOT what she wants right now.. but that she would try to make it.</p>
<p>I helped her move in Thursday, her room mate is an international who speaks almost no English at all. My daughter had a crisis Thursday night, and called me, she was sobbing, she feels completely alone, doesn't feel as though she can find anyplace where she can let her guard down (except in her car in the parking lot). I went back out for second day move in/parent student orientation activities on Friday, she was a little better in the morning, but still feeling very stressed, and unsure of her course or fate, she just keeps saying "this is just not gonna work, I'm not ready for this... not now, not here, "I feel stuck and I don't know where to go, how to get out, and I just need time to think about things and who I am, and THIS IS NOT THE PLACE FOR ME TO DO THAT" She has placements tests and auditions today (Saturday) I am encouraging her to visit the counseling office today, but she feels too much time pressure and is afraid if she goes she will miss her meetings and other scheduled obligations...I told her that taking care of herself takes precedence so she agreed to try to schedule a visit with counseling. After talking to her last night, I encouraged her to call her mother, and talk to her too, she she can know whats going on, she did, then called be back, and said her mom reminded her on one thing...that if she quits, her child support (from the divorce agreement) stops... since it's mandated by the state that after 18, she only gets it while she is in school, up to age 21. I was floored that in her daughters time of crisis mom would bring up something as petty as that!</p>
<p>I need advice! I am encouraging her to try, to seek help, but I am also telling her that I am going to support her decision as long as it's been made after considering all of the facts, and after talking to counseling and advisers. Am I doing the right things?</p>