<p>about a week ago i was asked to prom from a guy that i barely even know..
he is my friend but more of a classroom friend .. if that makes any sense..
he came to my house with about five other friends with posters and flowers asking me to prom .. to makes matters worse the whole thing was video taped .. i was so shocked and taken by surprise that i said yes.. i don't know why i did it .. but i did .. he was nervous and i didn't want to embarrass him in front of everyone.. i was put on the spot and waited a while until i finally said "uhh okay". we only talk once in a while in classes about hw or projects and i have never been flirty in any way.. i think he believes that since i said yes we shld start hanging out.. since the time he asked me i have not made the effort to hang out with him at school.. maybe im over reacting and he probably just wants to go with me as friends.. but i have heard rumors he had been planning on asking me about two months ago.. i don't want to be shallow or selfish but he is not attractive and he is awkward.. i just don't think im going to be comfortable on prom night.. taking pictures and hanging out with him.. my friends don't even know him that well. .. to add to my dilemma i have come to find out another guy who doesn't go to my school would like to go with me to prom .. and i do find this guy cute.. i know prom isn't a big deal but ive never been to any of my school dances.. and i thought prom would be the dance i would cherish in the future .. im a senior and this is the last dance of the year.. i was planning on going already but just by myself .. i know im being a horrible person but i think its worse how i don't talk to him at school.. i know for a fact he has told all his friends i have said yes and even some teachers.. .. i just don't get it.. i never gave any signs to him that i liked him or even that i found him attractive.. and i know it might seem that i don't want to go with him bcus he is ugly .. but NO .. what makes me uncomfortable is that i don't know him that well .. and now i have to put up this fake friendly front .. i don't know what to do :/ has been to long to say no to him?? im not happy..</p>
<p>What forum did you want to post this in?
I think you should attend prom with him, since you already gave him your answer.
Perhaps you will have a great time, and perhaps if you don’t, you will learn not to be so hasty, next time.</p>
<p>hmm. first use paragraphs. then i shall read.</p>
<p>This is a long post lol</p>
<p>im new to this site …
i have intentions of also asking questions about colleges… but as of now i cant seem to focus on anything else but this… 
im not sure if im allowed to ask questions on personal matters but i assumed that it would be ok under high school life… i have also seen other posts related to prom on this site…</p>
<p>It’s totally fine to ask under HSL! Welcome!</p>
<p>Goodness, I have no idea what you should do. I really feel for you, that would suck. I think I would just go with the kid because you don’t want to start drama right before you graduate.</p>
<p>it is long lol but i just wrote down everything that happened to receive the best possible solution!
in reply to alwaysleah … i really dont care about starting drama … his friends arent even my friends</p>
<p>So, essentially, you want to justify ditching him? If you’ve said yes, then that’s an awful thing to do. If you don’t care about being awful, do it.</p>
<p>Capitalize your I’s.</p>
<p>And retrohippo is right.</p>
<p>You said yes so you go. If you want to have an awkward time then make sure and keep avoiding him and tell lots of people about this. If you’d like to have fun then talk to him about how this is kind of awkward not knowing each other well and invite him along on your normal informal group activities. In our town girls usually call the shots as far as a prom group so you have the advantage of including him in your group rather than going with him and his friends.
Why not plan on having fun instead of trying to figure out how to get out of this? I’m a girl but I totally feel for the risk a guy takes asking a girl out, he manned up, time to put on your big girl pants and do the same. This isn’t a sitcom.</p>
<p>OP,</p>
<p>If you think you will be uncomfortable by attending the prom with the guy who asked you first, I guarantee that you will be uncomfortable by attending with the second guy. The first guy will be there and he will know why you back out. If he is not there, his friends will be there and they will know. </p>
<p>Since you will be an adult in couple of months, do an adult thing and go with the guy who asked you first. Try to enjoy yourself, you might be surprised. There will be plenty of opportunities to go out with the second guy.</p>
<p>In your heart you know what is the right thing to do. Otherwise you would not be asking this question a bunch of strangers.</p>
<p>thank you all for your honest input</p>
<p>i don’t think it’s fair that they ambushed you like that. it’s maybe unfortunate that you didn’t turn this around sooner, but i think it’s still okay to say actually no, i would rather not go with you, but i felt put under all this pressure to say yes initially, etc. honestly if that’s too hard (because it does sound rather difficult) You can just ditch him, if you feel okay doing that.</p>
<p>My advice is to do whatever you think is best for you. I kind of doubt that enduring the prom with him is, based on the OP, but maybe that’s what you’ll end up doing. I feel bad you ended up in this situation though. I wouldn’t blindly go through with it , if you feel it’s going to be a disappointing experience, just because other people tell you you have to because you already said yes or something like that.</p>
<p>I agree with enfieldacademy. How could you possibly say no to him when he comes to your house with friends and a camera? That would have been super awkward and embarrassing. Why don’t you just talk to him and tell him gently that you don’t know him that well and you didn’t want to embarrass him by saying no in front of his friends. Be apologetic, but not a pushover. It sounds like you barely even know him so it’s not like you’re going to lose a close friend over this or something… </p>
<p>Good luck! :)</p>
<p>You’re not getting married to him. You’re just going to a dance with him for ONE night. You’ve already said yes, and saying no after like this is much more horrible than saying no to him when he asked, even in front of his friends. Stop being so damn pessimistic, like going to prom with an unattractive guy is going to scar your high school experience… It isn’t. Go with him, and make the most out of it.</p>
<p>You said yes you should go but do not do anything to encourage him further. This is why my daughter has plan B(I won’t mention it here). :D</p>
<p>Just go with him and have a fun time- it’d be so rude to say no now. So Who knows, you might have fun. I mean, if you really don’t like him that much, tell him you’re going as friends. Problem solved.</p>
<p>why is it that so many parents invade an hsl thread about prom…</p>
<p>Cause they’re nostalgic about their high school days.</p>
<p>hmm could very well be.</p>