<p>Annasdad- You hear helicopters? Oh okay…
I met this guy and he has to be stopped. Since my daugther told me she couldn’t do the right thing by reporting him then I had to do it!</p>
<p>Woeish- Do you have a teenage daughter?</p>
<p>woeisha and others, if you read the thread you’d know that the college was very disturbed by this information and would love to get rid of this guy. Maybe they’re “all adults” but some of the “adults” are behaving very unethically. When the OP is paying a LOT of money for her daughter to be taught and graded by professionals, and one of those professionals behaves in a very unethical manner, the OP has every right to notify the college.</p>
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<p>Vigilante justice.</p>
<p>It’s NOYB. Get over it.</p>
<p>It doesn’t matter. You tracked the prof down and confronted him and then reported him. You need to let go of this now and let the college take over or it’s going to become unhealthy for you. At this point it would probably be good to close this thread so we can all help you to stop festering.</p>
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Nope, but your daughter isn’t a teenager. She is a grown woman.</p>
<p>If it’s my daughter, it IS my business. Though I may not have taken it as far as the OP, I agree that this guy sounds like a JERK and a loser who relies on the adoration of his students. For him to not recognize how inappropriate his behavior is shows that he is very self-centered. His maturity level certainly seems closer to his coeds’ age level…guess that’s why he has so much in common with them. Back in the dinosaur ages, I had a prof who, after the final grades had been submitted, asked me if I had a boyfriend. Alas, too bad for him…I did. I was a senior, still was really surprised, but I found nothing inappropriate…BECAUSE he waited until there was no longer a teacher–student relationship.</p>
<p>momof3- That’s a good idea… you’re probably right that this thread isn’t helping me. I keep getting private messages which seems to bring me back to the thread.
How do you close a thread? Will it just be closed so people can’t comment or does it disappear?</p>
<p>This has been discussed in this thread- but just to reiterate for several posters. It is extremely inappropriate for one person in a position of power over another to hit on/get sexually involved with/etc. with the person they have power over. This is true in universities, businesses and anywhere else. If the person in power initiates the action and shows a pattern of this behavior, the title of preditor fits. The gender of each is not so important. If the person without the power in this relationship is someone you love and care for, your child, for example, any sensible, caring parent will take some kind of action. It would be the same if your child were sick, depressed, addicted, etc.</p>
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<p>And if the child is an adult who has made it clear that she wants you to butt out, then you’re not showing love by continuing to interfere, you’re showing a need to stay in control of her life.</p>
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Yep, a pattern of creepiness of the prof. </p>
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Sometimes there is nothing wrong with it. OP, does your daughter go to a small college, like a small LAC? (sorry if you mentioned this earlier and I forgot!). I’ve heard of that happening a lot where professors and students do meet outside of class, but it is usually with a group of students, I think, and the professor tends to act less creepy as this one is. </p>
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And that’s the part where it gets unethical to hang out with students.</p>
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Adults who aren’t acting like adults because of the student/prof relationship, as has been discussed numerous times here. </p>
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Yeah, even if his maturity level is on that of a 19-year-old student, could he at least have the decency to wait until after the semester was over and was done grading her papers/assignments?</p>