help!! in college, took a test for some one else...

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Hi. I’m new to this so I don’t officially know how this works, but I need help from someone. I took a five questioned scant Ron quiz for this girl I know. I don’t know why, I just did.

She texted me and told me that she wouldn’t be able to come for personal reasons I don’t want to state on here. And that if I could please take the quiz so she wouldn’t be marked absent. And I guess at the time I just wanted to do something nice for a friend and I didn’t want to be shunned for not doing something like that. I didn’t think about consequences or how stupid it would be in the end. I just did it.

I told my parents after all my classes ended because I needed to talk to someone and I hadn’t discovered this site.

They talked to me all day yesterday and all day today and I AM DEEPLY REMORSEFUL! I understand now what I did was wrong and I don’t know why I ended up doing something so stupid!! They told me how I threw away everything and I get it. I was stupid. They also want to know why but they don’t understand after I told them. I don’t get it either. Now I know it was stupid and I knew it was wrong. So why did I do it??

I guess what I need help with is what should I do now. I don’t want my parents to think I’m a bad person for my whole life. Nor do I want them to be disappointed in me my entire life either. i usually never do stuff like this because it usually terrifies me. I also need help in what I should do about my teacher. Yesterday he didn’t act like he saw me doing anything and I don’t see him until tomorrow. I put the quizzes together at the end of the stack because he was collecting them in rows and no one was handing them down fast enough and I didn’t want to be suspicious. I didn’t put the same answers on both tests and I also changed the font from my writing. My friend says he writing style changes but I’m still freaking out. I’m afraid that I failed myself, my future, and my parents. I feel very bad inside like I did something dirty and I know I did something wrong. I still don’t want to be kicked out of the college either. So what should I say if he confronts me. I know I should tell him the truth, but what should I say eexactly.hes a nice teacher and I feel so awful. And what should I do if he doesn’t answer? Because this was technically fraud will I go to jail???

Also my mom spoke to me and told me that I don’t look like I’m freaking out. I am freaking out but I don’t know what to tell her. I tend to not show my feelings when I’m troubled. I don’t know why but It’s something I just noticed. I tend to shut down. I just don’t want her to think that I’m okay with throwing my future away. She said that a normal person would be crying and would be hysterical. I was last night and I cried all night. I just know crying and being hysterical wouldn’t help right now. I already told her that and I don’t think she believes I’m not okay with throwing my whole life away. What should I do about that too? I am not okay with what I did at all!

PLEASE HELP ME I AM SO CONFUSED AND UPSET AND I FREAKING OUT!!!

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You will not go to jail. So let that fear go. I cannot tell you what to do, but I think you need some support. Please talk to a counselor at your school tomorrow. You’ve done something wrong but you can deal with it. Just do the best you can from here forward.

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Assuming this is just a small part of the grade, don’t mention it to the prof. Do talk to a counselor since you seem to be very anxious. But then (1), ask yourself why you can’t just say NO when your “friend” wants you to do something stupid and dishonest and (2) think more deeply about the meaning of the word friend… Don’t be a sucker.

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I agree with the above post. One thing you have to consider…If the prof knows your friend, and realized he was not there, he may realize someone took the test for him. IF this happens, and your friend rats you out before you speak up, you are in trouble with school. I would talk to a counselor for sure, immediately, so if that happens, you can explain what you told us. Also, stay away from this “friend”. No friend would ask you to do this. He is a user. And he will get you into trouble.

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Forget it and move on. College professors usually don’t care what you do, they would just grade your papers and pass them back. Unless he’s somewhat hardcore, you don’t have to worry.

You don’t tell anyone, he doesn’t care to ask, nothing is going to happen.

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Thank you all so much! I think you all were very helpful and I plan on taking your advice very seriously :slight_smile: I feel much better after everything you guys told me and again thank you!

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This might seem like a big deal right now but in the grand scheme of your life it is just a little error in judgement. I think your parents might be trying to scare you into never doing anything like this again. If this is the worst thing you do during your 4 years at college you are better than most kids. I doubt you will get caught. If you do just explain what happened and take your lumps. Professors are human and for the most part want you to succeed.

I agree with the others that suggested reflecting on why you did this and find someone to talk to about this incident and other things that will no doubt come up during your time at college. You sound like a good person, just remember you don’t have to be perfect to be proud of yourself or earn the respect of your parents. Don’t beat yourself up. Every mistake is an opportunity to grow.

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You absolutely, without question, will not go to jail for this. So get that concern out of your head.

This was a mistake, and you’ve clearly learned from it.

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No jail, hun. Don’t worry,.
However, know how to politely turn down when someone asks you similar favor again in the future.

For example, this is what I say: you want me to lose all scholarship and drop out the school?