Help: Parents reluctant to send to US after 12th

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<p>There is one more factor why some Indian parents need more convincing than others. And that is, most students heading for studied abroad, are the ones who are full pay. So they belong to financially considerably well off households. And as we are aware there is lot of domestic help that we are used to here in India, from the maid to Dhobi, to driver, cook , maali and the works. The children of the house lead a very protective and well cared for life. </p>

<p>So naturally the children who have not done any chores nor are expected to do any chores at home, some of them have an incredibly big challenge ahead of them in terms of adjustment, taking care of meals, laundry, getting to class on their own, time management, self dicipline, peer pressure, medical emergency, cultural immersion and learn to take decisions on their own with no hand holding whatsoever. It takes lot of growing up too fast otherwise it will show in your Grades and health. Once you slip up there, the road gets even more difficult ot travel on. </p>

<p>The parents foresee this and is a genuine worry for them. That is why, I say, it is important for you to imbibe and learn to do things and show maturity in your last 2 years in school. The more effort you put in it the more your parents will be confident of their decision.</p>

<p>As far as Procrastinator views are concerned, they are based on his own experience. All that I have seen around me including my D, the college experience is what you make of it. The roommate equations you will have to learn to handle, whether you are here in India or if you go out. I also disagree, that the peer pressure, if anyone thinks, the challenge of falling in the right company or otherwise, which country you are in will make a difference. </p>

<p>If anyone thinks our cultural and moral values are “holier than thou”, then we only fooling ourselves. These are what we individually are and not a national virtues.</p>

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<p>Sorry for the typo, should read,</p>

<p>“If anyone thinks our cultural and moral values are “holier than thou”, then we are only fooling ourselves. It is who we individually are and not a national virtue.”</p>

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<p>@anialways great posting… Your D has a great parent!</p>

<p>As to your other point about grade, I updated my “stats” to avoid misleading people. I pick random dates on forums like these 'coz I hate revealing actual dates (after all it is collegetalk confidential!). I have not completed 12th board, please PM me in case you want more info – I prefer not to reveal at this time if possible. Time will tell :)</p>

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<p>Thank you antialias for the kind words. I am glad to be of help. Please feel free to ask and I will share whatever information I have or google for you guys.</p>

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<p>Campus life is what you make of it. That’s the entire point. You make all the decisions. You take care of yourself. You live for yourself. It teaches you that if something falls on the floor, it will stay on the floor until you pick it up. Things do not happen by themselves anymore, you need to make them happen. You learn how to make your life happen, which is quite important.</p>

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<p>Thank You Guys for all your posts but unfortunately I couldn’t convince my Parents.I may not appear for SAT too</p>

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<p>Hey geek</p>

<p>And I will tell you what I tell her, that we have to learn to take no for an answer, it is unpleasant and it gives us grief too at times, but in the long run it is a preparation for the real life. And please understand it is very difficult for parents to say no, irrespective of the fact whether they can afford or not. More so, if your child especially wants it so bad. You are a good kid. Handle it with a little maturity and they will appreciate it too.</p>

<p>Having said that, I will add that since they are willing to send you for post graduation, start working hard so that you can secure admission in the best place, ever. It will turn out to be the best thing that happened to you. You are fortunate that you have the ability and capability to afford that. And on top of that an ambition and intention as well. So go for it. You will do well in life. </p>

<p>In my house also we had a similar predicament. But when it came down to it, all we said was if she wants to go out she has to go for a professional degree. General academics can be persued here in India. And she also has to secure acceptance in, say, top 10 colleges that offer her major. And she did. And the great thing about Stern is that only about 40% choose to pursue MBA. The reason being that most of what is taught in MBA is already covered in Undergrad courses here at Stern.</p>

<p>So everything happens for a reason. Consider yourself Blessed. I wish you the best in life. Come on cheer up.</p>

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<p>geek - I tend to agree with your parents. Having studied undergrad in India and grad here, I am happy I got to experience the undergrad life in India. So if you get admitted to reasonably good colleges in India, that is the way to go. No need to spend so much money. And though health care for students is good , there still is not much emotional/family support for indian students here. Some kids do fine (I agree) but why speed it up. Stay in your familiar environment for some more time. I also agree with anailways that the criteria she chose for her D was good, either one of the best colleges or nothing. And for what her D wanted to do, that was a better choice. </p>

<p>For you, if you do well in undergrad, you can get here for Masters and get paid as TA/RA and it is easier to assimilate as well. Trust me, if I were your parent, I would do same. Good luck to you</p>