<p>So, I am presently preparing for my SAT and JEE and considering to go to USA after my 12th.But now, my parents are opposing my decision to go to USA after 12th.They are of the opinion that Undergraduate study should be done in India and are willing to send me for masters.They want me to go to IITs or BITS and do my engineering here.They think that living alone in USA is very hard.Moreover,I am a diabetic patient, So they think,It is not possible for me to live alone in a foreign country.
So i want to ask you guys, how should I convince my parents? Or is it better for me to stay here for undergraduate?</p>
<p>Bump…</p>
<p>Ask your friends or relatives or anyone who knows you personally. They see you, what you do, how you do and everything. SO they can give you an accurate answer than people on CC who only know you by these posts.</p>
<p>PS You will not be alone in US!!! You will have friends, South Asian Associations, sometimes Indian groups and many people to help you academically and personally.</p>
<p>If finance is not an issue healthwise you are much better off in a country like USA. As far as I know, and what I have seen around me, the living conditions are far more hygenic and comfortable and convinient than you will find anywhere in India, and I am only commenting on student hostel living. And so are the medical facilities and the urgency with which one gets attended to, too. </p>
<p>But since they are your parents and will be funding your educaton you need to listen to them. But I can suggest that if they are open to discussion, the line you should take is that, while you respect them and have regrads for their thinking process, you would give your hundred percent in preparing and applying for IITs/BITs. </p>
<p>In return you should be allowed to apply to colleges in US. and that the list of college should be such that will offer education with the best returns in terms of ROI, ie. a renowned and respected faculty, a strong program for the major that you are interested in, a great Recruiter ranking, a strong placement record and a good graduation completion rate - completing graduation in 4 years. And one could also factor in college rankings - Top 25 colleges for your particular program. This could be a list of about 10-15 colleges match your SATs, GPA, etc. Also one more important thing to include in your college list is location and research about medical help that is available. Most universities have 24/7 Emergency Medical Service.</p>
<p>And when the time comes for admission, then one should take the call. So basically have as many options and choose the best when the time comes. I am sure you are 18, or will be when you go to college, it is time to have adult and mature talk and see things from their point of view and create an environment so that they listen to what you have to say. You have to address their worries and concerns well. They need to know that you will be safe and well taken care of.</p>
<p>^ You won’t get better advice!! :D</p>
<p>Also do remember that your parents’ concern is justified. Living in a hostel is completely different from living at home. Moreover, when you move to USA - you will be facing cultural, weather, etc changes and you should research well to be sure that you will fit into wherever you apply!! :)</p>
<p>Thank you guys for your advice…I’l see what i can do…Hoping for the best</p>
<p>It looks like…They dont want me to go…:(</p>
<p>Well Its the same story here…but on the bright side…It remains the same story everywhere else too. Don’t worry much about going or not…Study to your fullest…play with your chances…and finally if you do get into your dream college …I don’t think your parents will want to stand in your way…besides the JEE can be fun too,yknow;)</p>
<p>Okay. I live in the US, and I’ve visited college dorms. All of the college students I know highly advise AGAINST living on campus, as do I. If you’re going to be here after 12th all by yourself, you don’t exactly have another choice. I’ve also been to India. It seems like it would be quite the culture shock. You really need to have the willpower to ignore roommates/friends and focus on school. My parents are also having the same concern (They want to move to India when I’m done with 12th but I want to stay here), and I’ve only convinced them to let me go to school in Chicago because I have friends already there and the rest of my family (aunts, uncles) will be close by. You really need to have a good support system.</p>
<p>I literally have the same story, just that I am not diabetic. They are like they want me to stay here because I won’t be live alone and stuff. I have not prepared for JEE because I am doing IB, and well it doesn’t give you time for anything else. What can I do? 
Money isn’t a concern, however they are wondering if it is worth it.
Also, I got accepted to Penn State which is ranked well enough for Industrial Engineering. How do I convince them guys? :(</p>
<p>Apart from what I have to share in post number 4, I have some more links for you to look at. I suggest you read as much as you can and then sit down with your parents to have a mature discussion. </p>
<p>Also start doing things around the house that will show them that you can take care of yourself. It could be little things like waking up on your own - if you do not already do so, tidying up and taking care of your room, make your own bed, learn some basic stuff in the kitchen, keep your time committments, learn to do laundry, keep in touch when you are out, do your work without being reminded, offer to help your mom in the kitchen, put a marker board in your room and have a “To Do” list - daily weekly or monthly for your deadlines and track them…</p>
<p>Why Study in United States
[Why</a> Study in U.S.](<a href=“http://www.india.idp.com/usa/getting_started/study_in_us/why_study_in_us.aspx]Why”>Study Abroad & Overseas Education | IDP Global)</p>
<p>Also I read some where and I quote,</p>
<p>[Number</a> of Indian students heading abroad increases dramatically over past decade | ICEF Monitor - Market intelligence for international student recruitmentICEF Monitor ? Market intelligence for international student recruitment](<a href=“http://monitor.icef.com/2012/11/number-of-indian-students-heading-abroad-up-300-over-past-decade/]Number”>Number of Indian students heading abroad increases dramatically over past decade - ICEF Monitor - Market intelligence for international student recruitment)</p>
<p>“As for why so many Indians are choosing to go abroad for education, Chanda and Mukherjee argue that along with (a) a perception that foreign degrees translate into better employability and (b) rising income levels among middle-class families in India, India’s educational capacity remains limited:”</p>
<p>Also there is also the belief that “Employers around the world respect degrees from US institutions more than from any other country.”</p>
<p>More casual drinking in the US is one reason to go.</p>
<p>This reply is only for loveofthevotchka,</p>
<p>I think that reason would be fine too if your parents approve of you drinking at the age of 18 when law requires you to be 21. And if you start your discussion with that who knows they might be impressed with as to how resourceful you are…already.</p>
<p>"Okay. I live in the US, and I’ve visited college dorms. All of the college students I know highly advise AGAINST living on campus, as do I. "</p>
<p>This sounds counter-intuitive. I thought part of the college experience was the living on campus. Why are the dorms full if it is inadvisable to live on campus?</p>
<p>@anialways – Good advice as rishav17 writes… What is your advise for the opposite situation when the parent wants the student to do undergrad outside India, but the student doesn’t? Well other than post 4 and post 11. Also what are best practices to do the transition – whether from US home to US college, or more drastic, foreign home to US college?</p>
<p>thanks anialways…I’ll follow what you said… and yeah… drinking rule doesn’t matter as i don’t drink</p>
<p>Sent from my Xperia S using CC</p>
<p>antialias</p>
<p>“Also what are best practices to do the transition – whether from US home to US college, or more drastic, foreign home to US college?”</p>
<p>Let me understand that, are you asking what lifestyle changes that one needs to imbibe to prepare for the transition to leave home and start living on one’s own?</p>
<p>Also I completely agree with you that part of going to college is the dorm experience. It teaches you life skills that no classroom can ever do. Actually that is what college is for, academics being only part of that whole growing upexperience.</p>
<p>Also which grade are you in currently? Why I ask is because till my D was in class 10, she had not given it much thought or shown any inclination either.</p>
<p>Ah, the things we Indian kids have to do to prove to our moms that we are all grown up. </p>
<p>Also, just to let everyone know, no matter how well you do and how prestigious the college you go to, mom’s food still tastes the best. I’d learn to cook if I were you, for the joys of good dal become very apparent during finals weeks.</p>
<p>antialias
Just viewed you ministats, I guess you are a parent…</p>
<p>loveofdevotchka</p>
<p>“Ah, the things we Indian kids have to do to prove to our moms that we are all grown up.”</p>
<p>I love it when you put it like that. And this is not directed at you but generally to all kids preparing to leave home. </p>
<p>The thing is that is what growing and taking resposibility is all about. YOU are doing it for yourself and not your mom, she has nothing to gain from it. You learn, your life is comfortable. She already has done enough for you, and her happiness is that you finally also want to be your own person, who wants to take care of himself because he WANTS to and not because he wants to leave home to just to go drink and party. Which would be fine too as long as you understand “all actions have consequences” and from here on - all who leave home for college- you are are responsible for your actions.</p>
<p>Is campus life in US colleges really that bad for a foreigner as Procrastinator14 has stated?</p>