<p>This post needs caring and honest advises from experienced parents out there.I am a senior in high school in India and am a US citizen by birth.
My parents met each other in 1992 and decided to marry in the following year.
My Dad was a physics professor at a community college(CA) where he was earning $90K/year(my mom also earned 50K/year).
I was born in 1995 and my mom fondly remembers their time as in 1997,we all shifted back to our hole India :(
My Dad remained jobless for 3.5 years and after a lot of struggle got one which wasn't worth it.He had no option but to do it.
You know how nosy and creepy the "Indian society" is and my mom still cannot get along with relatives who believe in a hell lot of superstitions(not ****ting till you do your daily prayers n stuff like that)
We relocated 14 years back because of my ailing grandparents which was just a trick.They visited us in CA and wrote an emotional letter in Hindi as my mum doesn't know Hindi.They showed my Dad properties,farms,lands which all were gonna be his but most them have been mortgaged for my Dad's sister.
He earns less than $7k here which is nothing close to $150k he earned in the US.
He doesn't have money to send me to college :( worst part :(
How do I persuade him to shift back to America,where WE belong and stop being used as an ass wipe for my relatives(they use him :( )
I just can't stop dreaming how lovely and comfi our lives would have been had we continued there.
Now all there are taunts from my cousins,we being talked about being so downmarket(my grandpa calls my dad a loser and each time this jerk does that,I die a little inside) :(
My dad left his dreams,ambitions,future for their selfish sake and now what he's left with is abuses,Loans and darkness?
I am working hard to settle our lives and I swear I am gonna pull my family back to where they belong as soon as I get big enough to sponsor them.
I HATE MY GRANDPARENTS----- they aren't grand,they're selfish.Fake love
Irony is everyone has moved someplace or the other(Australia,UK n USA) and my Dad became a
victim of circumstances :(
Parents Please help !!! Talk to me :( I really need it
waiting hopefully in anticipation
Regards
PS- Let your children dream high,unlike my Dad,wings should NOT be cut !!!</p>
<p>Sorry for the length… just went on and on and on 
was sad</p>
<p>I’ve read your other posts and I think that you are going about things incorrectly by planning on going to community college, no disrespect intended. I assume that you are a junior. </p>
<p>1) You are a US Citizen. You are considered a domestic student even though you live in India. I don’t see why you would be considered an in-state student anywhere. You don’t have residence in a state. </p>
<p>2) You have solid Math SAT and SATII stats. The other stuff needs work</p>
<p>3) Your parents have very little in the way of resources. </p>
<p>You need to apply to private schools that are need blind and full need for domestic applicants.
[Need-blind</a> admission - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia](<a href=“http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Need-blind_admission]Need-blind”>Need-blind admission - Wikipedia)</p>
<p>You should not apply to the most competitive schools because, you are not the most competitive student. However, there are schools on that list that might be a good fit for you like Beloit, Lawrence or some other options. Since you have very little EFC, these schools would likely make it affordable for you.</p>
<p>I was too late for that @rockerDad !
BUMP !</p>
<p>You can’t do a thing about your parents’ willingness to stay in India. You can’t do anything to change your grandparents. They are going to do what they do for the reasons that they do it, and even if you know their reasoning, you will probably never understand it. Stop trying to do that. Get on with your own life.</p>
<p>Go back and read the PMs I sent you earlier this spring, and use those resources. Spend some time in the Financial Aid Forum and read through all of the threads on Automatic and Guaranteed merit scholarships. If you qualify for any of those, then email the institutions and ask if they still are offering those for this fall. If they aren’t, take a gap year and apply for fall of 2015.</p>
<p>When you are 18, go home to America. Don’t make the same mistake of living where there is no opportunity. As far as college goes, you will have to pay your own way. It will be hard but it can be done. If you want an education there will be many years of work, school, work, school and on and on. But before you know you it, you will have your career in America. When you do, send for your mother and father.</p>
<p>Why don’t you contact Beloit and see if they are still taking applications</p>
<p>[Admissions:</a> First-year Applicants](<a href=“Admissions • Beloit College”>Admissions • Beloit College)</p>
<p>If not, in early May, a list of colleges that have space available comes out. Maybe there will be something affordable there.</p>
<p>Yes I am working hard.Taking 4 APs this year (all sciences) but I screwed a little on my final exams.
@happymom – My parents want to come(everyday) but my grandparents have never ever left the driver’s seat in terms of taking decisions.Whenever my Dad voices he wants to shift back,they bring up hoax heart attacks,asthma and stuff. It is getting tough for everyone
But I’m am trying my best with my studies :)</p>
<p>Don’t give up hope. I think the main priority is to get out now. Either with your family or when you are 18 as @sosomenza said on your own when you are old enough. There are still schools accepting students (smaller schools but still good and accredited - sent you a PM) that many don’t know about. Either attend in the Fall or take a gap year and migrate with your family. After one year of in state residency, you can pay instate tuition which makes some schools quite affordable especially with aid or scholarships. Are your parents able to migrate or is this dependent on a job? Are they permanent residents?</p>
<p>You don’t mention your GPA or SAT scores, but if you have the stats the Hays Memorial Scholarship at Hendrix may be a possibility for you.</p>
<p>[Hendrix</a> College | Scholarships](<a href=“http://www.hendrix.edu/scholarships/]Hendrix”>Scholarships | Hendrix College)</p>
<p>Good luck!</p>
<p>SAT1=1830(W 580,M 670,CR 580)
SAT 2= chem- 680 ,physics -730, math 2 -670
Taking 4 APs — Calculus BC,Physics C (mechanics +electromagnetism),AP Chem
and except a 4,though a 5 is highly probable in all.</p>
<p>GPA — don’t know how to convert but 78% in my finals.I know they are a little less
and
obviously not to sound rude,I got through lovely colleges in India but India is not the place.Hence,I just don’t want to go to any college in the US.
I’d rather wait for 2 years and transfer to a deemed one through a CC.
PS: was completely ignorant about how the system works or I’d have taken and studied more AP exams or would have joined the IB but why cry over spilled milk.</p>
<p>If you are a U.S. citizen with a Social Security Number you may be able to file a FAFSA for financial aid. This link might help: </p>
<p>[Financial</a> Aid for U.S. Citizens Living Abroad | CollegeXpress](<a href=“http://www.■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■/interests/international-students/articles/applying-american-universities/financial-aid-us-citizens-living-abroad-financing-your-american-education/]Financial”>http://www.■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■■/interests/international-students/articles/applying-american-universities/financial-aid-us-citizens-living-abroad-financing-your-american-education/)</p>
<p>Here’s a link to an article describing how to find colleges still accepting applications for fall 2013.</p>
<p>[Colleges</a> still accepting applications for fall 2013 (Photos) - Washington DC College admissions | Examiner.com](<a href=“http://www.examiner.com/article/colleges-still-accepting-applications-for-fall-2013]Colleges”>http://www.examiner.com/article/colleges-still-accepting-applications-for-fall-2013)</p>
<p>I can’t remember, do you have family in the US who you could live with or near? That might be the way to go. If they are in a state where you can establish residence for college tuition/fees in a year, then you could stay with them while you get started on that. Then attend the CC, and transfer.</p>
<p>OOS tuition and fees can really add up even at a CC. In my area, the OOS COA is about $22,000 for a year at the CCs because of the estimates for cost of living. If you are going to end up at a CC, pay close attention to the living expenses and the availability of entry-level jobs in the area of that CC because you are going to have to support yourself given your family situation.</p>
<p>You absolutely will be able to file the FAFSA, but all you will get is $5,500 in student loans and possibly some Pell grant money. If you get the full Pell, that is about another $5,500 (I can’t remember the precise figure). $11,000 won’t go very far if you are paying OOS rates for tuition and fees, and if you have to come up with money for your living expenses.</p>
<p>You are in charge of your life. Attitude means a lot when dealing with people. Indian families are no better/worse than others (Indian H here). Make academics your priority so you can eventually return to the US. Finances may make US colleges unaffordable for you so don’t discount those in India. IF math/science are your interest you can do college cheaply in India and then look for a US job. Many Indian educated people come to the US- you would have the advantage of not needing a visa. Concentrate on your goal of living in the US. Use this as your motivation to get better grades and to tolerate your social/extended family situation. You can’t change your parents but you can do things to help your future. Good luck.</p>
<p>@AlbionGirl— Yes 
I filed them this year. </p>
<p>@HappyMomof1---- I have cousins in Cali,with whom I’ll be staying for atleast an year if not more. I’ll be establishing residency in CA. Yes,I’ll have to find entry level jobs :)</p>
<p>@Wiz75 — Yes! but I CANNOT live with my grandparents anymore.I feel suffocated
My whole plan is to finish as many credits in the CC at a lower cost and then transfer and experience my college life thereafter. Where are you studying and where do you live in India? :)</p>
<p>How many credits can one do at a CC? I’ll be transferring</p>
<p>For specific questions about the CA system check these forums:
[California</a> Colleges - College Confidential](<a href=“http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/california-colleges/]California”>http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/california-colleges/)
[UC</a> Transfers - College Confidential](<a href=“http://talk.collegeconfidential.com/uc-transfers/]UC”>UC Transfers - College Confidential Forums)</p>
<p>The simple answer is that you can take as many courses as you want to at a CC. However, the number of credits that will transfer to a 4-year college or university is something that is decided by the transfer-to institution. Most students spend about two years at a CC before transferring, and many will complete the requirements for an AA, AS, AAS or other associates degree because often that facilitates the transfer process.</p>
<p>Since you will need a year to establish residence, you don’t even need to know anything about this just yet. You can find out the details after you arrive, settle in, and start working. In most of the states where it is possible to establish in-state residency independent of your parents, it is necessary to live there for a full year as a self-supporting person before taking any college-level classes. Be sure to find out what the rules are in CA.</p>
<p>Here’s another thought: If your mom is a US citizen, could she move back to the US with you now, so that you could be in CA sooner and so that your mom could also be an in-state resident by the time you are starting college? I don’t like advising separating a family, but I do know people who have done things like that to optimize their children’s educational opportunities.</p>