<p>I had a great life in high school. I was salutatorian, made a speech at graduation, won prom king, was president of the largest club on campus, the speech and debate team, and got into every college I applied to. </p>
<p>I came in as an Applied Mathematics major at UCLA and so far I'm doing very well. I set the curve on a math midterm, impressed my TA in my GE, and if it weren't for a lot of stupid math calculation mistakes, would be breezing through introductory economics.</p>
<p>But my social life has left a lot to be desired. I don't feel like I've accomplished much and the quarter is already almost over. Simply put, I really have no good friends here, just acquaintances here or there. I go and meet with some of them a few times but that's all it ever amounts to. A lot of my other friends have friends on their floors or halls but my floor is just generally antisocial and made up of upperclassmen. My roommates are also upperclassmen and they're friendly and nice but they don't get out a lot. I've joined clubs and groups on campus and while I've had plenty of fun in them, no one ever makes any attempt to contact me outside of such events. </p>
<p>What I'm really wondering about is, "What have I been doing wrong?" I came home this weekend for the first time and all my friends have had many amazing experiences at college with the people they've met and become really close to. My friend had a kickback and I'm still recuperating from the fun I had. I may in fact not be completely sober right now. </p>
<p>I would consider myself to be social. I may be somewhat quirky or odd at first but I've never had anyone regret ever getting to know me. I don't act shy at all but go out of my way to introduce myself and engage in a friendly conversation to a stranger. I'm not a "partier" but I do enjoy going out with friends to a party. I've just not had any friends so far. I haven't even been attending sports games because there's no one to go with me. </p>
<p>If this is really how it's meant to be, I guess I wouldn't really mind. I'm still doing well in school and I'm learning a lot about many different academic fields that just fascinate me beyond what I can describe in words. But it's not really the way I envisioned my life in college.</p>
<p>You’re not the only one, trust me college would be much more tolerable in that respect if there were easy access to alcohol and drugs.</p>
<p>Have you ever considered taking the initiative to ask someone to hang out with you? It seems like you do the same thing I do, which is sitting and hoping for someone else to make that contact.</p>
<p>hmmm well your def not the only one that goes through that…im kinda in the same situation…i go home most weekends since i dont really have friends accept for the aquantances… but hey, its only only your first year, i think, so its just gonna take time before u can make the right friends</p>
<p>i had the same problem at first but once you make one good friend you start to met their friends and your circle of friends and aquintances grows much faster. it just takes time. there is no deadline and you seem fairly happy and definitely capable. This is a common situation. Friendships can be hard to plan but you will met people who you click with right away and start hanging out with a lot. Just be as friendly as you can. Talk to people in classes and once you get to know them from talking before class, ask if they want to study for a midterm or something. Join clubs and call people and just be very proactice. Eventually you will find people who you really want to be friends with and then it will just continue naturally. Until then you gotta keep trying to find those people. I had a few friends my freshman first quarter and then our group kinda split and I was kinda lonely for a while but by winter of my sophomore year I had more friends than I could count, a circle of very close friends and a lot of acquintances. I’m not even a very out going person. Keep trying new clubs because each club is different and some are more outgoing than others. I am in the juggling club at my school and it is pretty much like a group of friends who happen to juggle. Once you join the club you just get invited to everything and become part of the group. You still have plenty of time. Just go into the next semester with a positive attitude about it. Try an hang out with the people you already know at the begining of winter and also talk to people in your classes. Maybe join a new club. It will all fall into place soon enough.</p>