<p>My current girlfriend, Erin, got accepted into a bunch of schools (UCLA, NYU, BU, Syracuse, Cortland, and Stony Brook), but she got a full ride to Cortland which she plans on attending. I'm probably going to syracuse university, so my question to current college students is: is a long distance relationship worth it? I mean the distance isn't that great (50 miles) but I don't think we can maintain a close relationship if we only see other other every 3 days plus college is probably going to take up most of my time. </p>
<p>In addition, I will be meeting lots of new people in college, so I dunno how faithful I'll be. To other college students, how hard is it to maintain a relationship where you get to see your GF like only on the weekends? We really don't want to break it off because we've been together since 8th grade. Any advice would be helpful.</p>
<p>Why don't you just wait and see how you both feel when you get to college and then address the situation? It sounds like you have put alot of thought into it, which you should be commended for and you sound like a nice guy. Our daughter and her boyfriend will be facing the same dilemna so I do feel your pain.</p>
<p>As a mother I would like for them to make that break before he leaves for college (but I keep that to myself) since he is a senior this year and she is only a junior. She has already said a multitude of times that if he has any doubts to his ability to be faithful to her that she would prefer he tell her BEFORE leaving for school, and BEFORE he does something that would hurt her later on. That way she feels they could remain friends because the trust factor has not been broken and in time there might be another opportunity for them to get back together with no water under the bridge. I suggested that would be the ideal thing to do because he is 17, good looking, athletic, smart, and has a good personality and is bound to be attracted to someone at school as the girls are crazy for him now! But at 17 and 16 and you think with your heart and not your head. Thank goodness our daughter is mature, very pretty, smart, and has a few admirers of her own that are just standing by waiting for next year when her boyfriend is away at school.</p>
<p>The point I'm trying to make is all of you need to enjoy your lives because one day you will have to be responsible and faithful and those days are nearer than you think. You are so young so don't be so hard on yourself and try to grow up all at one time for it is a process. Good Luck!</p>
<p>I will exercise my sense of humor here and give you the benefit of the doubt that you weren't referring to me as the "amatuer". :) I have been around awhile and I still say "don't try to fix something before you know it's broken" and "don't lose sight of why you're going off to college and what it is you should be doing right now at this time in yourv life". There will be time enough for serious relationships and the bottom line is if this person is THE one for you it won't be difficult at all to remain faithful but if not, so be it cause you both have a lot of growing up to do. I married the boy that lived across the street from me. We met when we were both 14, went our separate ways after hs graduation, ran into each other again at age 25 and married two years later....if it's meant to be it will be.</p>
<p>6rings, it's very hard, but possible if you really think it's a serious relationship.</p>
<p>I can't tell you how many girls with bf's from high school cheated on their bf in the first week (I'll admit I helped once or twice). And I'm sure the problem is twice as bad with guys and their gf's. </p>
<p>If the only reason why you want to stay together is bc you've been together for so long, just break up because it's not that great of one. College is for meeting new people, use it to your advantage.</p>