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<p>Assuming that the OP has a real concern, I would not ignore the possibility that your D is making homophobic remarks or using such language as part of her general hostility and desire to strike out at you and others, associated with her apparent mental illness. If she can âget away withâ this particular form of hostile behavior with some people because of their prejudices, while at the same time grigging you, since she knows you disapprove of it, so much the better in her view.</p>
<p>How are things going with getting her assessed?</p>
<p>PS Donna, I really donât think that ignorance of he fine details of terminology and so forth are evidence of lying OR transphobia. The OP probably does not care much for her niece, whose supposed superiority has been thrown in her face on a regular basis for years; certainly not enough to do internet research.</p>
<p>Hard to believe, in this day and age, especially when homosexuality is enthusiastically embraced and promoted on campuses, both high school and university. You must have a TOTALLY different high school environment than is common here.</p>
<p>But the question here would be to ask what is behind this? Has someone harassed her? Attacked her? What happened? This is what I would want to know. </p>
<p>People donât usually develop opinions in a vacuum. Something happened to lead to the opinion that you are seeing.</p>
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<p>Iâm not suggesting for a moment that they evidence transphobia. What doesnât ring true to me, perhaps more than anything else, is that the OP finds whatâs supposedly going on with her niece to be funny and enjoyable. And thereâs something about the writing style that just doesnât âsoundâ parental to me. Obviously I could be wrong.</p>
<p>Well, I know what you mean, but Iâve seen people who didnât sound parental here before. :)</p>
<p>I can understand that she finds her inlaws getting their comeuppance after their bluster and bullying enjoyable. Find a teenâs emotional turmoil amusing is another matter.</p>
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<p>Not sure how one âpromotesâ homosexuality. That would be like promoting blackness, tallness, blondeness, etc. LGBTs are not out to recruit new members. They were born that way and simply looking for equality and acceptance.</p>
<p>Quote: "My inlaws are flipped out. And well, yes, I think it is funny. I donât know if she is doing this just for the reaction or if it is real. But since I really do not care at all about her sexual identity, I am able to just sit back and enjoy my inlaws panicking. "</p>
<p>Well, if you wonder where the OPâs daughter gets her hate from, this statement says it all. Hate is genetic: it runs in families. She just picked a different target.</p>
<p>Massmom, she has said that these people have frequently told her she was going to hell because she doesnât share their religion. Iâd hate them, too.</p>
<p>Hate is genetic? Thereâs a hate gene. Hmmm.</p>
<p>You should tell her not to bully homosexuals. You shouldnât tell her to (nor should she feel inclined to if itâs considered unacceptable to her) befriend or seek chances to interact with homosexuals. Different people have different views of homosexuality, and none of these views are more valid than any of the others. Just because she has a different view than you doesnât mean that she is wrong any more than you are wrong for having a different view than her.</p>
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<p>I saw some article recently which tried to imply there was some correlation between the width of someoneâs brow and their racist attitudes. People actually study this nonsense.</p>
<p>Maybe she has the hate gene and canât help it. :)</p>
<p>I never said I was enjoying any sort of suffering by my niece. I do not think my niece enjoys the horrible behaviors on behalf on my inlaws anymore than I do. I referred to it being amusing watching my inlaws, all adults, freak out over what is going on with niece and what niece has said. I see no signs of distress from my niece over it.</p>
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<p>Nope⊠this whole âthere are two sides to this and they are equally validâ stuff just doesnât cut it here. Almost all gay people just want to be allowed to live their lives, love who they want to, and have the same rights and responsibilities as straight people without being made to feel like lepers or like someone others shouldnât âbefriend or seek chances to interact withâ. As discussed on another post, most of us would find this pretty appalling if someone were told to not âbefriend or seek chances to interact withâ people of another skin color. Homosexuality is not a choice â and every time someone tries to act like it is okay to treat gay people as less than human in some way, they are showing ignorance and bigotry. Then those who are behaving in an ignorant and bigoted way have a hissy and insist that they are NOT bigoted. But⊠they want to keep acting in ways that clearly are bigoted.</p>
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<p>Totally agree with intparent (@#33). Imagine someone saying âDifferent people have different views of blacks/hispanics/asians/etc., and none of these view are more valid than any of the others.â Sounds like pure bigotry, doesnât it?</p>
<p>Okay, now explain why the âbigotedâ view is less valid. Should we tolerate pedophiles (and no, Iâm not comparing being homosexual to being a pedophile - donât bother with that retort), adulterers, drug addicts, etc too? Should people not be allowed to hold the opinions they feel are most reasonable and correct?</p>
<p>To clarify, I donât think itâs appropriate to bully or dehumanize groups of people over one thing or the other. I donât care if anyoneâs homosexual or not. I just also donât care if other people like or dislike homosexuals.</p>