<p>In college, I shared a 3-bedroom apartment with two women. One was gay & had friends over. We got along fine on that score, but she had a problem with me & the other roommate because we refused to sweep & mop the kitchen multiple times/day (thought that was excessive, for some reason). She eventually moved back into the dorm. I actually had a lot more trouble with the other hetersexual roommate, who had her boyfriend in our living room nearly 24/7 & they couldn't keep their bodies apart & made it very uncomfortable to have any company in the apartment (I spent a lot of time at my boyfriend's place because of that).
Also in college, I had a sorority roommate who was always "entertaining" male guests on her bed in our double room. She was infuriated that the only place I could study was on my bed (really never could study in libraries). She got so exasperated that she moved out & into a sorority house.
What is the point of these examples--just to show that we can never know how things will work out with roommates, maybe.</p>
<p>Many students have co-ed housing arrangements where, fwiw, sexual expression isn't a problem. </p>
<p>And, fwiw, there was about a 30 percent chance that my D's initial roommate would be lesbian, not that anyone lost any sleep over it. I know quite a few gay men and, as Sweet Sangria notes, their tastes don't run towards straight men. I think it's a non-issue.</p>
<p>But I suppose there are some who would make sure that they don't serve in our armed forces (because they'd make the other guys feel uncomfortable), teach in our schools (where they'd be a bad cultural example), or in fact participate in public life where straight people might get exposed to gay cooties.</p>
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<p>It is you who have said it.</p>
<p>Thank you so much for all your incredibly prompt responses.
Now that I've thought it over (and discussed it with my parents), I am going to give it a shot and see what happens. I'm sure that if any problems arise the housing office will help me out, and maybe I can learn something from the experience. Thanks again to all of you!</p>
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Just don't "learn" their agenda. ;)</p>
<p>Don't worry joev, I have my own views and never take anything at face value.</p>
<p>"Just don't "learn" their agenda." </p>
<p>Smiley face or not. . .here is another case of using a catch phrase instead of thinking. Whenever I hear someone usie the term "homosexual agenda" they are easily shut up by asking them what they think that is. Guess what. . .they either have a headful of idiotic assumptions or can't even offer a response. </p>
<p>BTW the basic homosexual agenda is the same as the basic heterosexual agenda. . . be successful, be happy; help others be successful and happy.</p>
<p>Gay marriage, hate crime laws, more funding for AIDS research, an end to don't ask don't tell, adoption rights, repeal of the sodomy laws, child sexual rights - I'd say there is a homosexual agenda. At least there are a lot of homosexuals organized and lobbying for these and other issues of specific interest to GLBT community.</p>
<p>As for the agenda you listed I disagree with issue 1 (marriage is between a man and a woman, no slippery slope here) and issue 2 (every crime is a hate crime, you don't like someone and commit a crime against them, thusly hate crime does not exist) Issue 3 is wishy washy (its like dumping money down a sewer sometimes), issue 4 I agree with (gays have no place in the military, you are totally correct) issue 5 is good (a child is ALWAYS better in a two parent household no matter what the single mom task force wants you to believe) issue 6 I totally agree with (what goes on in a person's bedroom between two consenting adults is noones business) and I don't see the angle you are coming in on with issue 7 (child sexual rights? please explain)</p>
<p>I'm gay. If anything, you should be pleased to have someone to open your mind living with you on a daily basis. And, chances are, he will be more upfront with "bringing people home" than a straight person would...less sexile = great college times!</p>
<p>joev, i'm curious, do you believe gays and lesbians should be allowed to have civil unions? unions that ensure the same rights to them that are granted to those in heterosexual marriages? is it about equal protection under the law, or is it a sexual morality issue for you?</p>
<p>i too am confused by the "child sexual rights" things. patuxent, please clarify.</p>
<p>I think perhaps he is talking about age of consent? or possibly the abilty for a teen to obtain birth control or have an abortion without their parents consent.</p>
<p>Civil unions I have no problem with at all. I have no problem at all with gay sex, if they want to do that its fine with me. Civil unions would actually simplify a lot of things in the courts when it comes to property and child custody. I just have a problem with calling it "marriage", which in reality is a religious issue not a government issue.</p>
<p>I can relate to the OPs problem.</p>
<p>I wasn't sure what I was going to do when I found out that my roommate was black. I consider myself liberal and have absolutely nothing against black people, but I felt very uncomfortable at the thought of having to live with one.</p>
<p>You dont apply to NYU and notexpect at least 1 gay roommate,.</p>
<p>even if you switch you will just get another one.</p>
<p>remeber you are south of houston in NYC.</p>
<p>There are alot of gays.</p>
<p>deal with it. What isa there to worry about, what he he going to give you oral in your sleep.</p>
<p>Cmon, it will be fine.</p>
<p>I am very very conservative and wouldent have a problem with that.</p>
<p>Its ok to be gay.</p>
<p>Not that there's anything wrong with that...</p>
<p>Issue 1: Marriage in society is a strictly heterosexual custom. Homosexual, like heteros, should have the opportunity to be in union with their partners. But, why would they want to conform to a strictly heterosexual practice and loose their identity? They can never be a husband and a wife, only two husbands or two wives. </p>
<p>Issue 2: Every group has predjudices against them that society tolerates. I don't think its unique to gays and lesbians. </p>
<p>Issue 3: At this point, Aids funding for research is important to both groups, hetero and homo, and is(or, should be) advocated by both since everyone is equaly affected and can equally contract Aids. Why is this a homosexual issue, then?</p>
<p>Issue 4: I see no problems in gays being allowed in the military. In fact, military gays would blend easiest (ie: be more masculine and chauvanist) in a hetero environment. Usually, the men who are uncomfortable are those who are insecure. </p>
<p>Issue 5: I agree with joev, although I've seen many successful kids raised in single parent households. It's just more difficult. </p>
<p>Issue 6: I agree with joev. </p>
<p>Issue 7: I don't get. </p>
<p>Anyways, to the OP, I see why you would be uncomfortable. You're probably not used to encountering homosexuality. But, maybe this is only me, if your afraid of the dude flirting with you, don't be. A number of gay guys, metrosexuals, are hansome. Why would they go for a straight homophobic guy if they have good selection of gay guys, especially at NYU, to choose from. Now, if you feel the guy is challenging your masculinity, then you have to battle with your insecurities.</p>
<p>Haha, well said, SeaLocust.
I'm glad the OP has said he'll give it a try. I'm sure he'll soon find out that people are just people regardless of their sexual orientation: some are annoying, some are nice, and some smell bad. Some bring their significant others over and have loud sweaty sex in front of you, and others have a bit more modesty than that and keep their private lives private. Unless the guy's a horrible person who throws himself on people who don't want his attention (called harassment, considered criminal; luckily most people don't do that), it'll probably be a non-issue. You're more likely to clash on issues relating to your everyday existence, like setting alarm clocks too early or not doing your laundry.</p>
<p>"Child Sexual Rights" is the hot button issue of NAMBLA, the "National Man/Boy Love Alliance" (think that's what the acronym stands for). Their contention is that "children are sexual beings", and that as long as the sexual contact between a grown man and a boy is "tender, consentual, and respectful", it should be understood and embraced as "a beautiful thing".</p>
<p>In other words, they promote pedophilia. Fortunately, as far as I can tell, the vast majority of people in the gay community don't support this organization.</p>
<p>"I wasn't sure what I was going to do when I found out that my roommate was black. I consider myself liberal and have absolutely nothing against black people, but I felt very uncomfortable at the thought of having to live with one."</p>
<p>Interesting SeaLocust...Your comment takes me back to 1976 and my own freshman move-in day. I'll never forget how the faces of my white roommate's parents visably "fell" when they saw me unpacking my gear in the room to which their DD had been assigned, and how they quickly managed to paste on hard, plastic smiles as I introduced myself. Fortunately for me, Merry, my sweet and wonderful roomie, seemed to have no problem whatsoever with the fact of my blackness, and from that day on, we got along great. </p>
<p>You said you'd felt "very uncomfortable at the thought of having to live with one". Why had the thought been so anxiety producing? What happened when you roomed with this individual?</p>
<p>Several people have discussed the policy of some colleges with male and female students REQUESTING to live together. I was already aware of this, and although I may not prefer for my own child to request this option as a freshman, I understand that others may CHOOSE this, and I would not stand in their way. Similarly, I understand that gay males or lesbians may CHOOSE to share a room, and I would allow this and would not alow others to harass any student. However, these situations are not at all analagous to the OP's situation, because he is being FORCED to share a room with a homosexual male. Many posters have stated, and I believe that it is likely true, that NYU would not allow him to change roommates because he feels uncomfortable having a gay roommate.</p>
<p>I still do not see the difference between a heterosexual male being FORCED to share a room with a homosexual male and a heterosexual female being FORCED to share a room with a heterosexual male. Couldn't a female learn something about the plight of men if she were forced to room with a male? I have read a number of posts, and I still have not seen one liberal state that they would have no problem with their daughter being FORCED to have a heterosexual male roommate. I was pointing out the hypocrisy of a school that says it does not discriminiate on the basis of sex and sexual orientation when in fact it obviously does.</p>
<p>I repeat my previous question. How many of you would like your freshman daughter to be FORCED to share a dorm room with a heterosexual male? And why is that situation MORALLY any different than this one?</p>