<p>So this coming quarter of fall I found out that I have a gay room mate in my double dorm. I have nothing against homosexuals but I am not comfortable sleeping in the same room with a person of a different sexual orientation than me. I already emailed the housing office requesting a room change, but the thing is i figured out that the person I emailed for housing is also gay and he recently got married to a man. Do you think he will get angry? Will this affect my room change?</p>
<p>The housing officer will hopefully be professional about the situation and understand your discomfort, but I have no idea if you’ll get a room change. Your roommate is still a man, so there are technically no grounds for your request, other than your discomfort at his sexual orientation. I don’t understand why that should bother you if you are not homophobic, which clearly you are if you judge someone negatively by their sexual orientation. He could be a really nice person and a great roommate, but you are simply dismissing him as intolerable because he is gay.</p>
<p>It’s not that… It’s because I am Muslim and sleeping in the same room as a homosexual is not permitted. I have many gay friends and i have nothing against them; its just I can’t sleep in the same room as them. Merely because in a “gays” point of view, he would be sleeping in the room with a person of the opposite gender ultimately giving him the possibility of sexual arousal towards me. I find that very uncomfortable. May I add that homosexuality is not permitted in my religion.</p>
<p>By definition, he would only have sexual arousal towards you if you were of the same gender.</p>
<p>Yes. I am the same gender.</p>
<p>Edit: But since he can have sexual attraction towards me… in his point of view I would be a “compensation” for the opposite gender.</p>
<p>Just bring up the point about your religious beliefs. Hopefully they’ll understand.</p>
<p>Time to put on your big boy pants and deal with it. </p>
<p>Get over yourself. He’s not going to be attracted to you. </p>
<p>Drinking is also not allowed in your religion. There goes the vast majority of roommates. Your religion is going to face zero effect on your roommate change, which I hope you get so he doesn’t have to deal with you for a year.</p>
<p>He’s not gonna be attracted to you just because you’re a guy (especially if you’re straight). I’m sure you’re hardly attracted to every girl you see, just because they’re a girl. And if you’re fugly you really shouldn’t be worried at all :D</p>
<p>Change your religion.</p>
<p>Just go to the residence office and say that you’re religious and it conflicts with your beliefs. They are very understandable about it. It happened before at my old school and they had no problem moving the student to a different room. Colleges are very respectful of peoples religious views and they will do everything in their power to help you feel comfortable. You’re paying them also don’t forget they want you to be happy.</p>
<p>I’m so glad I go to a school where every request to change based on discrimination is automatically denied.</p>
<p>When you start with “I have nothing against ---- but…” you’re already behind. This is your fault; you pick the religion and you’re being irrational about the sleep arrangement. You’re not sharing a bed. Don’t expect sympathy here. </p>
<p>I told my own roommate ahead of time because I wouldn’t want to be stuck with a homophobe. Oh, but you have many gay friends, while at the same time it’s “not permitted.” Time to think and make decisions for yourself and not hide behind religion when it suits you. What if your next roommate is atheist? Then you repeat this nonsense and get one who drinks? </p>
<p>If you’re so hellbent on this, be a man, get in touch with your would-be roommate and say you want to jointly request a room swap. It will likely increase your chances, and I’m sure he’ll be thrilled to be rid of you.</p>
<p>This is the kind of post that can raise controversial comments, so I will chime in in support of the OP’s concern. He is not denying anyone’s rights, but is discussing sharing a small room for an entire year and his honesty could prevent both him and his room mate from a very unhappy time. These are two people who have a right to their religion, beliefs, and sexual orientation. Neither of them should feel a need to change for the other. OP should not have to change his religion. His room mate should not have to hide who he is.
This is simply an unhappy room mate situation for both of them. It is in everyone’s interest to place each of them with a room mate who is more compatible.</p>
<p>No one is making the OP change his beliefs.</p>
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<p>So a heterosexual female would be fine? Would an asexual male make you uncomfortable?</p>
<p>“I have nothing against African Americans but I am not comfortable sleeping in the same room with a person of a different race than me.”</p>
<p>If you’re comfortable sounding like that, carry on.</p>
<p>I support the OP 100% on this. Get a room change immediately, express your religious beliefs. It’s not fair for a male and female to not be able to share rooms BUT, a male and a gay male can. He can find you attractive and try to hit on you, or get drunk one night and crawl in to your bed lol. Also, you don’t want false rumors of you and your gay roommate spreading around the school. Maybe some one decides to spread around that you and your roommate get it on at night. Then you’ll have no choice but to transfer away from the school, cause once a rumor starts, it’ll be very hard to kill it.</p>
<p>It should be like this IMO:</p>
<p>Straight guy with straight guy.</p>
<p>Straight girl with straight girl.</p>
<p>Homosexual with homosexual.</p>
<p>And what of asexually, bisexuals, questioning, transvestites, etc? What about people who don’t want to label themselves? Grow out of your high school ideas about rumors and such.</p>
<p>He just doesn’t want a gay roomate, why is that a problem? There is much potential for unwanted activity in this situation, and, sorry to say, the additional stigma of having a gay roomate is too much.It could lead to something similiar to what happened at Rutgers.</p>
<p>Come on now, has he made any advances toward you? Right now you just sound like an Ignorant *******. lmao is he going to sneak up behind you when you are sleep and say SURPRISE BUTT SEX… no. Get to know him and try be friends, and if he does bring something up about a relationship, state that you are not interested and he will get the message.</p>
<p>The OP has every right to not be with a homosexual because of his belief. It doesn’t mean that he hates them. So stop criticizing him and saying such nonsense.</p>