How can I tell my roommate I don't want him sleeping over every night?

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<p>So I am a freshman in college living in a suite. We all share a common couch area, pantry, and bathroom. Overall, we have two bedrooms: one with three girls, the other one is two girls (I'm one of them). So my roommate came to college while in a relationship. Then she started talking to her ex, and now they're back together. Since the beginning of school he has been sleeping here. There are a couple days here and there that he would sleep at his own dorm. School started at the beginning of September and now it's the end of October. How can I now bring up the fact that I don't like him sleeping here every night. In the morning I like to get dressed in my own room and feel comfortable, but I can't since he's in the room. </p>

<p>Overall, she is more close to another roommate and I just am not the "closest" with her. Yeah, we still talk a lot though. Another thing is, I'm a very shy person and I don't know how I would be able to bring this up to her. Any suggestions?</p>

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<p>Most colleges have a rule where guests can only stay over for X number of days. If you have an RA, they can be invaluable for dealing with this sort of situation; I know that one of my acquaintances dealt with something similar last year. Just drop by your RA’s room sometime when they aren’t around to talk about it.</p>

<p>If you don’t have an RA, you might have to be a bit more confrontational. But you can still do it quite simply but also with a tone of firmness:</p>

<p>Melixx: “Hey, so I noticed that Jeff has been staying over a lot recently. I know I haven’t said anything to you before, but back in high school, I used to like to take some time in the morning to mentally prepare for the day ahead. Is there any way that we could work out some alternate sleeping arrangements for Jeff?”</p>

<p>Obviously, this has to be tailored to your own situation, but might this work?</p>