In one of my college classes, there is a girl who I think is pretty cute. I’ve seen her in the class and once in the library. However, she usually sits on the other end of the class, opposite of me. Second, I’m like super shy and don’t know how to start a convo. So I was wondering, what can I do to like maybe start a friendship at least?
Eye contact and smile. That is always a great place to start. When you pass or are near one another say, “Hi” or “Hey.” Think of a question you can ask her - something casual like, “How’s it going?”
Can you choose a seat closer to her to make this convo happen?
I’m sure others will have good advice but this is a start. Enjoy the process of trying to run into her so you can talk and hopefully meet.
Start moving a little closer to where she sits, if you can do it without being really obvious. Time your exit so that you leave or enter class together. I agree that a simple “how’s it going?” with a smile is a good start. It’s not threatening, doesn’t imply anything, and is perhaps less awkward than hi. Hi is always good too.
I thought my super shy daughter was doomed to remain without a boyfirend forever. But that hasn’t been the case. It started with very casual chit chat, and having some mutual friends. So perhaps find out if you have any mutual friends. Or ask her if she knows so and so, because you thought you saw them talking. 
So she was at some event I was and when it ended, I just ended up chatting with her while we walked to the library, like casual convo and got her name. Before she left, I said I might shoot her a FB…is that too early. Did I come across too strong?
My Hubby and I met in high school. He went up to me and asked if I want to hang out. 13 years later, we got married! Go for it, you may just meet the “One!” Let the “world” guide “you”
@kamenridermach I think the next thing I would do is to maybe ask her a question about homework or such.
Here’s the Dad advice. Forget FB and just ask her out, she probably already has an impression of you for good or bad.
Everyone likes ice cream so maybe start a conversation and ask if she’s been to . A yes or no response doesn’t matter, but follow up by smiling and ask if she’ll share some of her knowledge if you bribe her with some ice cream?
If she’s interested she’ll go, if not she’ll politely decline and you’ll know she’s not interested.
@tpike12 Yup. Thats pretty much how my husband and I got together. We were in class together. I thought he was cute, so I asked him to a movie.
Eh, found out she has a bf already…oh well…
Keep being friendly. You never know when she will not have a boyfriend. These things happen.
@Empireapple Not a good attitude, really. He should keep being friendly because that’s just a way a person should behave. Period.
@kamenridermach Since you are normally shy, maybe take advantage of the fact and get to be friends with her, and her BF, and voila, two new friends. That’s how I found one of my closest friends back in undergrad. We hit it off, and then I got to know her then BF (now husband of 30 years - they have a grandkid…), and I got close to both of them, and then their group of friends, and, before I knew it, I had doubled my friend group. We’re not as close, but I’m still in contact with the lot of them.
@MWolf I mean, I already have plenty of friends. I’m not sure if befriending her is a good idea due to the whole crush thing
@Empireapple Doubt it. From what I’ve seen, they’ve been together for like 5 years…
@kamenridermach - I sense that you are a man of honor.
Kamenridermach You are a glass half empty kind of guy! Regardless of this situation you’ve got to change that! Good things will come and a positive attitude will only help.
Mwolf lighten up. We aren’t discussing morality here…my point is “you never know what the future has in store.”
@Empireapple It’s not about morals, it’s about objectification. She is a human being, not some prize, or some choice apartment that you want to occupy, so you wait until the present renters leave.
For the love of God MWolf…talk about P,C. mantra. I was simply saying hangin there…you never know what the future holds. You go from there to objectification? Now I understand fake news.
This young woman has been in a relationship for 5 years. OP doesn’t really know her. There must be plenty of women on campus who aren’t in relationships. He should focus on finding someone who’s available.
She has a boyfriend. Close thread.
@Empireapple good things how? I don’t want to be that guy who lingers on and hopes for a relation. That’s sleazy