So I want to approach a girl in my class that I’m interested in. I never have spoke to her, but, I have made her (along with several other girls) in the class laugh by saying a joke or something stupid (LOL). Do you think this would make the approach less nerve wracking when I do it? What I mean is when I approach, would she be more open to a guy like me approaching her since I have made her laugh, although I never had a one on one convo with said girl.
Btw, i am asking this because although I’m not shy to say a joke or something out loud in an auditorium class filled with students (probably 50-80 students), I have always felt shy, awkward and scared about approaching girls (after getting rejected to so many times in the past). Your thoughts?
Thanks… but should I just ask her for coffee automatically or do I do the typical hi how are you introduction and what not, and then introduce the idea of coffee?
Can you sit next to her and naturally start a conversation? If you could do that for a week, then ask her for coffee (and I wouldn’t even think of it as a coffee"date" just having coffee with a classmate), then you could get a vibe from her. That would be less risk. But “Hey do you want to get a cup of coffee after class?” Is fine too. I might make a comment about the class or her input. “Can’t believe we have to read ten books by Friday.” “That was funny/smart/great what you said.”
The issue is that I have been sitting in the back of the auditorium/class room every class, and I don’t want to be obvious and I don’t really want to move from my spot. She sits in the middle of the right front section of the room. However, I could probably either sit there before class starts just to talk to her or just talk to her after class. Does this seem O.K?
@3vd0tree Unless you have assigned seating, it is no big deal to move. Maybe you need to see the board better or pay attention more. You could just talk to her after class if that is what you are most comfortable with.
We had a guy who took a sociology course whereby the students had to make up their own social polls and ask questions to unknown students.
We were freshman and he was a sophomore.
He came up to me and my friend and asked us to rate local junk food restaurants that were not franchises. He got to talking to my friend, and they hit it off; they apparently frequented a lot of the local places.
Finally, he asked her if she would be willing to meet him at her favorite. She said yes. They met for lunch and kept going on these lunch dates and spent a lot of time together.
My kiddo had an interesting twist on this conundrum recently. A boy from her class walked with her after class for a while, made small talk, talked about common interests…she really liked him. So he says to her, “Hey, can I give you my number, so if you want to hang out sometime you can call me?”
At first I though…well, that’s peculiar! But the more I thought about it, the more I thought…you know, that’s fair…he made first contact, she has some responsibility in getting the ball rolling, too. Kind of a modern way to share the awkward first steps. Also kinda spares his feelings if she decided not to call, she could take the number anyway.
She waited a couple of days… and gave him a call. They had coffee and hung out. Went really well. Then, he invited her to an event on campus this weekend.
Well there isn’t assigned seating. I just choose to sit in the back because 1) I can see and hear from a far and 2) I like having my own space (not many people sit in the back).
I just don’t feel comfortable sitting next to her for the class. Now, if it was the start to a new semester and all, I would definitely make a move like that. But it’s not. We are almost done with the semester and I have practically sat in the same spot all semester long.
So yea, I am gonna have to approach this girl either before class (where I can sit and talk to her until the teacher gets there and I go back to my seat), or I approach her after class and ask her something about the class and pull something from there, and then ask for her number and see if I can get a coffee Meetup thingy going (I’m such a noob at dating
PS to the above message… I’m not anti-social by the way. I just have always preferred sitting in the back in college. Now if there’s a girl who I’m digging I will sit next to her at the start of the semester, but the issue is is that I am always early to classes. So I basically sit wherever I want and the chips land where they may. Let’s see though.