<p>My dad is overbearing, but he's never home. My mom is overbearing and she's ALWAYS home. I have a tiger mom and a tiger dad too. I was talking to them earlier and I just want to yell at them that this is my life and I can make my own choices. I already know I want to be a doctor, but I'm thinking of going to NU, if I can get in, and go to the engineering school, major in biomedical engineering, and do this thing they have called the "co-op program" where I get a chance to intern with a business/engineering firm, but this program is going to take 5 years in undergrad. All of a sudden they start yelling at me about how I can't do it because I have to finish undergrad in 4 years minimum so I can go to medical school, obviously less than 4 years being if I get into a combined degree program, but I don't want to! I want to go to NU, I want to major in Biomedical Engineering, I want to take 5 years of Undergrad, and then I want to re-apply for medical school. What should I do? I just feel so lost all the time, because I'm living my life based on what they tell me to do, 24/7, and I'm not even allowed to share my opinions without them getting offended and it turning into a huge fight, which just makes me angry and makes me even more emotional than the typical hormonal teenage girl. I feel like crying all the time because I feel so lost and stressed.</p>
<p>I can’t help you with career choices but you seem to have a path mapped out that seems reasonable. Do some more research on it. Get info on the program and leave it out to read–where they’ll pick it up. I’ve usually found that education does wonders. Even one year can bring a lot of changes. In you and your parents outlook.
Right now–take a deep breath, refocus and keep arguments to a minimum. Continue to work toward your goal. Take the classes you need and make the grades you need to make. You and your parents actually have the same goal–success in a chosen field.
It sounds like you both even want the same field–you just seem to have selected a specialty.</p>
<p>Guess what…when you start college, you turn 18, and then you don’t have to listen to them anymore.</p>
<p>Trust me, it’s just easier to pretend you agree, then plan on “changing your mind” later.</p>
<p>Lol, those parents closely resemble mine. NU has HPME, but that’s not likely. I would listen to your parents because they’ll most likely be paying for you. I mean, if you’re gonna be a doctor, your co-op internship won’t really mean much in the long run. Med schools is very expensive as it is, it would be a burden to have them pay for an extra year. Becoming a doctor is a very long path as it is, one year is only gonna extend that time which means less time as doctor and higher costs for something irrelevant to medicine. So don’t no if it helps, but you should also take a look at your parent’s perspective which, at least financially and time-wise, would warrant a 4yr path which should provide you plenty of time to fully take advantage of other opportunities.</p>
<p>Guess what…when you start college, you turn 18, and then you don’t have to listen to them anymore.</p>
<p>No. They will follow you to the grave. Your grave.</p>
<p>Not sure why you are arguing about trivial stuff like how long it will take.</p>
<p>There are 30 seats for HPME and so it is almost impossible to get in. </p>
<p>NU itself is hard to quite hard to get in (17% and getting lower this year?).</p>
<p>Coop program I believe is quite competitive. I don’t know if they award it to you upfront or you need to apply once you get in. Either way, just assuming you want to do it won’t get you in.</p>
<p>There are a lot of people who figure out they have nt done well enough to get into medical school after 3rd year and spend an extra year in college or outside. So assuming you will get in right after undergrad is not always valid.</p>
<p>So take a chill pill and get into NU first.</p>
<p>Btw - I read your other posts. Indian parents are not part of the Tiger dads/moms pool.</p>
<p>I suppose you’re all right. My parents actually will be paying for college, so I should be making them happy.</p>