how do i tell my best friend that i dont want to be roommates with her?

Pre-College Issues High School Life
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So my best friend and I want to go to the same college and we´re going to be applying in a couple months. The college has a high acceptance rate blah blah blah so we´re not too worried about us both getting in.

But she is convinced that we are gonna be roommates but my mom and I were talking and that might not be the best thing. It isn´t the fact that I think we won´t get along living together but I feel like we need distance so we´re not crutches to each over. We need to meet new people and live our own lives. But I still want to be bffs with her just not roommates.

How do I tell her this? Should I be blunt? Should I lead up to it? Over text, in person? I just don´t know.

2

Tell her you want to remain best friends and rooming together can jeopardize that. It’s tough living with someone in a 15 x 12 room. Little things grow into big issues in close spaces.

3

Yes, just tell her. For heaven’s sake, don’t beat around the bush. Let her know your reasoning behind it as well.

4

Gosh, who knows if she’s thinking the same thing. Open up to your best friend and given how close you are, I think it will all work out.

5

Definitely not through a text!
And wait until you both have been accepted and have committed. A lot can change between now and then

6

^^This! Wait until you have both been accepted. Have a talk in person, and strategize on what you WILL do together to sustain your friendship. Maybe you will want to live in the same area on campus or do an activity together. You will have to be more intentional about seeing each other. I also agree that best friends are not always the best roommates.

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Definitely wait until you are both accepted AND you have both decided to go there. Then tell her you have been reading about how best friends who are roommates end up hating each other because they live together 24/7 and you don’t want that to happen.