How Do I Tell My Suitemate To Be Clean

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Hey everybody! I’ve been reading through CC since my highschool days. Never made an account until now though. I’ve found myself to be in a predicament with my suitemate, and hopefully I can get some advice on how to deal with it.

Okay, I live in suite, meaning I have my own private bedroom, but I share a bathroom with another student. I moved in last week Tuesday, and noticed the toilet was (seemingly) a little dirty. There was a urine stain on the side of the bowl, but I didn’t think much of it. I was too busy setting up my room. Come the next day, I needed to do a number 2, and so I go to clean the toilet before use. I lift the seat, to see thick, disgusting, urine stains all over the underside of the seat and on the bowl. And to make matters worse, urine streaks leading from the top of the bowl to the bottom. It was appauling. It took about an hour, but I cleaned it up.

But what’s frustrating me is the fact that he’s still leaving urine stains on the toilet, starting from the day he’s moved in. I cleaned the toilet again this morning, come back 20 mins ago, to see pee stains on the seat. I keep leaving the toilet seat up, so he knows to avoid urinating on it. But he keeps putting it down and leaving stains on it.

My suitemate didn’t move in until Sunday night, the day before class starts. I was already asleep, and didn’t see him. Monday - Wed, I have to be in school by 7 am, and don’t come back until late. So I haven’t even seen him yet. But I will be talking to him tomorrow. So I want advice on how I should approuch this. Do I bring up how dirty the toilet was, and how he’s re-dirtied it since moving back in? For now, it hasn’t gotten to a point where I feel I need to involve my RA. I feel kind of disappointed that I have to have this conversation with a 18+ year old, but it’s come down to this. So, what should I do?

TL;DR: My suitemate keeps peeing all over the toilet. How do I tell him to stop, without sounding rude?

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Suggest a schedule for cleaning the bathroom and how you noticed it gets dirty pretty quickly. If you share it then I think your suitemate should have a part in keeping it clean too.

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Some guys don’t see dirt. They just don’t. It’s possible his mom and dad never had him clean anything at home - it just magically gets clean, and he doesn’t have to lift a finger.
Honestly, you may wind up doing the cleaning yourself. But I hope you have talked to him about it, and at least told him that you don’t like it, and that he should be cleaning as well. Drawing up a schedule is a good idea, but be sure to talk to him. And tell him what your standards are…and make sure he knows HOW to clean. I doubt the RA would intervene in this.

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That does stink that your roommate pees all over the toilet. I agree you should consider making a cleaning schedule for you and your roommate to take equal turns cleaning. It might also be helpful to have some clorox wipes kept near the toilet to remind your messy roommate to clean the seat after he uses it. I don’t think you should involve your RA at this point because that is something you two adults should be able to work this out. I mean if things get really bad then yes contact your RA for tips but don’t have them come into your place to talk to your roommate about his peeing issues because that might cause him to resent you even more. Best of luck. Just talk it out and see where it goes.

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“Dude, I spent an hour cleaning your pee off the toilet yesterday. What’s the deal? If you miss when you p*ss, be neat and wipe the seat.”

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If you haven’t mentioned it to him yet don’t blow your top. Just a casual, “hey man, can you try to not piss all over the seat? Maybe lift it up before?” Like someone said, he probably doesn’t even realize he’s doing it. Unless he’s an *ss he’ll at least make an effort.