<p>“And that she’s ashamed to be my mother”</p>
<p>Thats *<strong><em>ed up. A mother should never say that to her child, ESPECIALLY over *</em></strong>ing summer camps and scholarships. Like what the hell? Its a SUMMER CAMP, and at leadt your son is showing initiative. </p>
<p>(/rage)</p>
<p>You’re not a failure bro, your mom is for making you feel this way when you’re clearly trying your best. </p>
<p>Whenever I’m ****ed I listen to music (lol so clich</p>
<p>I wish I could listen to music when I’m upset. Anything but silence in that case is just irritating.</p>
<p>Hi supersmartguy1, </p>
<p>What you said about your mom sounds like my mom. I recently got rejected for a very big scholarship after being selected as a finalist, and my mom started yelling at me about how I’m not deserving of the scholarship… which is obviously the last thing anyone needs to hear after being rejected. :/</p>
<p>Anyway, I’ve gotten both acceptance/award & rejection letters. I admit that I’m still bitter about the scholarship organizations that rejected me, especially because I know some of the recipients personally. I try to deal with rejection by thinking positively and knowing that getting into college itself is a big accomplishment in its self and remembering the organizations & people who HAVE believed in me and supported me. </p>
<p>And of course, ice-cream and watching comedy tv shows/movies always helps too.</p>
<p>I am sorry about your disappointments and sorry about the pressure from your mother, but parent bashing isn’t productive.
So you didn’t mention any of the rejections by name–were they programs that you were actually interested and suited for? Sometimes it just happens that way and there is no rhyme or reason to the rejections. Others seem to have the stars and moon align and seem to be successful with every endeavor. Given the user name you have chosen for yourself and the SAT scores saw posted elsewhere you have obviously dealt with much more academic success than the average student, and you need to keep things in perspective.
Perhaps you really wanted to attend a program this summer (or at least your parents wanted you to) but frankly it really doesn’t matter in terms or your future. Sure, reading CC you may get the impression the EVERYONE goes to a summer program. Maybe in certain circles, but in general this is absolutely not the case. Almost no one from this area goes away to programs, or does research or has internships. They hang out, get a minimum wage job maybe, go to the lake, vacation with their family and enjoy being teenagers.<br>
RELAX! I am very concerned about another of your recent posts asking what “proof” colleges need that you attended a summer program when you have stated here and in yet another post that you have no summer program. You go on to talk about “what if a summer program will be losing funding next year and will cease to exist-how could I prove I went” (paraphrase). I may be wrong but it sounds like you are so worked up over this that you are plotting a way to falsify your college application to show that you went to a summer program that you did not attend. THAT’S NUTS!!! It is just so unnecessary. Yes, you may be disappointed and your parents my be compounding the situation, but this means nothing in terms of your future. Try to refocus and find something to do this summer that you will enjoy. There are plenty of paid programs out there that are noncompetitive but still enriching and fun–is self pay an option? How about a local college class? A job? Weekend getaways with friends? Visits to relatives? Sports teams? Intensive music lessons? Try out for a role in summer theatre? What are your interests?</p>
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You don’t say?</p>
<p>One summer my son applied for volunteering positions (in science related fields) not knowing how unbelievably competitive those were. After he learned his lessons he found some local science camps and just called and asked if they needed help from a high schooler. Surprising one of those programs offered him a “position”. He had a blast! The program was run by 2 college professors and grad students from a local university. The camp was very successful and they made a bit more money than expected so in the end they offered him some money for his work. Needless to say, he was asked numerous times by others how the heck he got that job! I am not say that is equal in prestige to one of the competitive programs but hey, he did what he loved AND he ended up getting some money too…
My advise to people that are rejected in volunteering positions is just get in the phone and call places that do not advertise.
For academic programs just go and get classes in the local CC, self study etc.</p>
<p>Rejection is a part of life. If you don’t learn to take in stride now, you’re gonna have a bad time.
Also, while your mom’s reaction was a bit much, she isn’t a “bad mother” and the mom bashing isn’t necessary for if she truly were such, you wouldn’t be able to apply to these programs in the first place.
Work hard and don’t take rejection personally.</p>
<p>I feel you bro, these past three weeks have destroyed me 
I got screwed over twice, big time. </p>
<p>It’s okay though. Although it hurts a lot, we’ll get through it. This is really just a small part of our lives. I have parents who on occasion (less now, though) called me a failure when I didn’t do well but I know they did just to push me to do better. Maybe that’s your mom’s goal as well? I can’t say I agree with the tactic, but it is what it is.</p>
<p>@am9799 thanks for the great ideas!
@alexissss I don’t mean to seem disrespectful…I know my mother will never change and she’s just trying to push me to be better but sometimes the constant criticism makes it so hard.</p>
<p>dude you don’t need these “summer programs”!! do stuff on your own!!! Say you really like physics and stuffs like that…create experiments then create a portfolio of data, what are your hobbies? maybe start applying for scholarships…try creating a non-profit organization!! Literally you have a whole world of opportunities! DON’T LET THIS GET TO YOU!! Right now, me behind my computer, am not defining you by your “15 rejections” and your mom needs to stop being so shallow…try to not let her negativity get to you, you are better than that!</p>
<p>It sounds like your mom’s anger comes from her own feelings of insecurity. She’s afraid that your rejections will shine poorly on her image as a parent. That’s pretty rude that she does that to you.</p>
<p>Learn from it and move forward. Rejection is a frequent occurrence, so you must be able to battle it in the future! For me, I just remind myself that one instance of rejection is just one, small moment in my life and that I should not and can’t afford to fret over it. Even after moving into my last year of school, I was confronted with rejection, dead-end interviews, resume blackholes and more rejection. Just remember, all you need is <em>ONE</em> acceptance and it makes it all worthwhile. </p>
<p>Don’t let your mother get to you. Try your hardest, times are tough. Even if you can’t find the ideal job or internship, find something that will keep you busy, developing skills, and maybe making money. Nothing is wrong with volunteering, that is how I started out.</p>
<p>I will give you an example. After my first year of college, I was rejected from internships and jobs. I took the advice of my high school physics teacher, that you are never too good for a job, and became a funeral director. At first, I was distraught by my failure to obtain an internship. In the end, I made the most of the job and learned some good life lessons.</p>
<p>Well ill be real with you here. You are a failure. Grow up</p>
<p>Take your ■■■■■ post away</p>
<p>Any kind of rejection, no matter if it’s in love, your career, friends, a book proposal or anything else, is not something that should affect how happy you are. Rejection doesn’t feel great and sometimes it feels unfathomable but it shouldn’t be something you permit to take away happiness from your life.</p>
<p>Not sure if your Mom actually feels that way or whether you are projecting your own self-doubts onto her.</p>
<p>“Failure” is Step One to Success. So, move on, keep going. It’s still very early in the overall game (your life). Don’t want you shooting up any movie theaters.</p>
<p>I’m a recruiter for businesses. Part of my daily duties is informing people that they didn’t get the job or an interview. To be totally honest with you, I don’t feel that many “rejects” are rejects at all, and I hope they don’t feel that way. Many times, it’s not what candidate A lacked, it’s what candidate B did a little better. And it’s usually a little thing, like being better prepared, having more common ground, or having references that are easier to reach and have a conversation with (as opposed to just being able to verify dates of employment).</p>
<p>On the other hand, let’s assume your Mom is right. In that case, run for Congress.</p>
<p>See, there’s something for everyone.</p>
<p>Here’s a story my professor told me. It helped me, it might help you as well:</p>
<p>While he was doing his PhD in Statistics, he applied to over 200 internships did not receive a job offer (or even an interview) from any of the firms. Every single one of his colleagues had either interviewed or had already landed a job. Him and his adviser started asking around as to why he did not receive any call backs. It turns out that HR departments were throwing out his resume/application solely because they did not want to deal with his visa status (he was on a student visa at the time). Him and his adviser circumvented the HR department and talked directly to the supervisor of one of the projects he applied for. The supervisor read his resume and thought it was outrageous that HR had not contacted this guy. He interviewed, and they offered him a job on the spot.</p>
<p>TLDR: Keep trying, circumvent HR, network with people in the company. Repeat.</p>
<p>@supersmartguy1 </p>
<p>Well, let your mom know that even the great Charles Schulz went through many years of rejection before someone picked up his cartoon, “Little Folks”. Even when his cartoon was picked up, the Syndicate did not like the name of “Little Folks” and changed it to “Peanuts” against Schulz’s will. Talk about the ultimate rejection! So for 50 years, Charles Schulz was forced to use a different name for his comic strip. However, his success led him to become in the Forbes Top ten Entertainers (worth over 1B dollars). </p>
<p>I see rejection as a chance to excel in a place where you never thought you would be. Obviously your mom wants you to go to college NOW. But maybe that’s not what is meant to be NOW. </p>
<p>I am a non-traditional student. I’m not fresh out of high school. I learned, that sometimes you need to go out into the world and live a little, before it better makes sense. Then, when you are ready, you can come back and wow the audience (in your case, your mom).</p>
<p>Right now, it’s about you. What do YOU want to do with your life. Not your mom. Your goal in life isn’t to be a people pleasure. You need to find out what makes YOU tick, and then go do it. </p>
<p>Rejection is a part of life. It’s a tough thing, but I just think of it as a learning opportunity, and that whatever I had tried for, wasn’t meant to be.</p>
<p>Good luck.</p>
<p>Rejection is bound to happen to everyone who has high ambitions. I just finished my junior year of college, so I knew a lot of people applying for internships through on campus recruiting (I am a physics major so I am more focused on research positions) and many of them applied to well over 50 places! It is really competitive, but if you don’t put yourself out there, you will never achieve anything.</p>
<p>Wow your mom needs to chill I got rejected by at least 10 colleges last year, and to be honest, I felt like a total loser and miserable. I didn’t cry but I tried to make myself feel better by listening to a lot of music. Trust me, time is the best medicine. At the end you’ll realize nothing really matters.</p>