First -
As someone who has recent and ongoing experience with an overstressed, anxious, at the end of her rope, once “high-achieving” child - I urge you to let your own child know that being “good enough” and having a healthy, balanced life, with plenty of time for sleep, relaxation, and fun, as well as academics, is just as praiseworthy as being a part of “the top”.
My D took the route to get to a very selective university - multiple APs per year, no free time, not enough sleep - and struggled to keep up. This all culminated in her having panic attacks, depression, and recently having to miss school and be treated for it.
The best-laid plans…
We are very happy with where she will end up, a small state university. It’s a place where she can have a balanced life, something she has not had all through high school. It is not where she, or even we, her parents, planned for her to be back in eighth grade. She also was academically advanced, very high test scores, etc.
If I could go back in time, I would force her to only take one or two APs per year and starting in junior year, not freshman… I would urge her to get a part-time job during the summer, instead of taking summer school (so she could have room for more APs , more ECs…) every summer. I would tell her that “good enough” can be the best way, the most balanced way.
I know my own experiences with this subject colors how I view it now; but when i see posts like these, I see my daughter four years ago.
Just remember to encourage your daughter to have some down time, and plenty of sleep, NO MATTER WHAT. Not even college is more important than our childrens’ physical and mental health.
Second, addressing your question -
Most daily household chores don’t really take that much time. My daughter’s job has always been to empty and fill the dishwasher every evening, and do her own laundry. Although, often, I will throw her laundry in with ours, she doesn’t have much. But I wanted to make sure she knows how to do laundry. And laundry is something that can be done while studying…
I’ve also made sure she knows how to cook simple things from scratch, and have occasionally sent her to the corner grocery on her own with a list, and some cash.
We also signed her up for a high school checking account and got her debit card, so she can learn how to manage her money and a bank account.
She’s also been buying most of her own clothing since freshman year (I give her an allowance).
These are all things that require some personal responsibility and help ease them into adulthood…
I have not made her work during high school because of her busy schedule, and summer academics, but I kinda regret that - the part-time job would have been more helpful than the extra academics, I’m thinking, looking back…
Finally -
Realize that many, many universities are not that competitive for admissions. Most state universities require a 3.0 (often lower) and an adequate test score and the required high school curriculum for admission.
Anything over 3.5 and good test scores, starts getting into merit scholarship territory (not a bad thing!) at state schools or lesser-known small private schools.
My own daughter never wanted to go to a prestigious university, and I wish I’d known before that she didn’t have to take many of the advanced classes she did and that she struggled with at times - in order to be admitted to those, or even get merit.
However if a very selective university is the goal - just have her get some regular sleep and fun, too, to avoid burnout.