<p>alright kingcat, if she likes you as a friend, then she likes you ALOT as a friend, or maybe even deeper. . . </p>
<p>don’t blow this opportunity. Do NOT ask her on a date, but don’t be afraid to get intimate (feeling wise, shared moments wise) with her. </p>
<p>You’ve got to capitalize on this opportunity. </p>
<p>Eventually, she will know you like her. Don’t forget to tell her in person at the right time. And. . .she will probably say the same thing as well.</p>
<p>she told me she might “go shopping on MLK, but let’s see”
and I do not text. My parents block it
hahha yeah and I’ve been talking to her three days in a row. No wonder why she responded kinda slow today. i guess I will need to blow her off a little?</p>
<p>Just get your flirt on. Girls love confidence. And honestly, not to be judgy, you want to get with a girl who has a list of 6 boys all of whom she likes??? Jesus. Girl’s OCD, I’m telling you.</p>
<p>Yeah man don’t overdo it. If you are constantly trying to start a conversation with her she is going to get really annoyed. The trick is to make her think about how she wants to talk to or be with you, not about how she is always talking to you.</p>
<p>You don’t want to seem too available. Even if you are.</p>
<p>I really appreciate it if the guy tries to get to know me better, first. I enjoy having IM conversations on top of him talking to me in person. And I prefer finding out that he likes me through words rather than actions; it can be embarrassing and uncomfortable if someone tries to hold my hand and I don’t want to - for both of us. Be creative, too (although this is optional)! Before my ex-boyfriend asked me out, we talked in school and through aim for a few months, and we’d make 11:11 wishes, partly as a joke and partly to find out each other’s “secrets”. Finally, he said he wished to date me.</p>
<p>This takes a bit of time, though. As for “overdoing it”, just use your discretion and try to read her responses. But don’t think too much!</p>
<p>Trust me, heed my advice. But be smart about it. If you are talking to the girl a lot and she still enthusiastically responds (if on AIM or whatever, she will be responding quickly and happily - with smileys if she is one of those girls; if in person, you will be able to tell by body language), then keep talking to her. If she seems annoyed or reluctant, you should pick up on that and ease off.</p>
<p>I didn’t take this advice when I was a freshman and regretted it later. haha</p>
<p>hahaha kalthar.
And no, kingcat, I did not get the inference that that girl was asked out over IM. Even if she was, you shouldn’t do it: you get your feelings across a lot better when you do it in person, and you feel so much better when it happens in person: you see them smile, you see them say yes, etc. You also feel like a man. Asking out over IM or FB Chat is for middle school children</p>
<p>Another reason to deal with girls in person is that it’s harder for them to be mean. And let’s be real, girls look cute, but they’re exponentially meaner than guys. A girl has no problem sitting back on a fluffy pillow and spending 20 minutes composing a *****y/hurtful text message, because she feels safe at her house. But I’ve never had a girl disrespect me to my face. She’d just be too intimidated to be anything but polite. So ask in person, and if you have any sort of masculine presence, it will be a very polite no if it doesn’t work out. And she will probably cry in the bathroom after.</p>
<p>Okay, so today is a new day.
She seemed to ignore me in the morning. Somehow I feel that this is “taking the heat off” because by lunch we talked again, and she smiled and looked at me and hand gestured across the room in the afternoon just like yesterday, but a little less, probably cuz I didn’t look up so much. hahah I’m taking a little heat off too
So at lunch, she had to study for a test tomorrow again, and so I asked her if she wanted to get a lunch first. She thought for a bit, and then told me we could grab a lunch on Friday because we’ll have the same club meeting and sit next to each other, then after that we could go chill out. That was all her words.
However, I’m still afraid that this thing has lasted a little bit too long, and it should come to a tipping point soon. Any idea whether/ how I should pop the question on Friday because I really don’t know what to say lol?</p>
<p>When girls fantasize about their ideal dream guy, it’s usually a pretty quick and decisive image. Not a guy who exchanges looks and giggles for weeks on end without making a move. </p>
<p>Basically, it seems like this girl is into you. But she won’t be into you forever. She will lose interest unless you ask as soon as possible.</p>