<p>What would I want to hear? Honesty and the truth. What’s going on? All of it, not just what you want to tell me. What are you feeling? Not just “I’m miserable” but why and what does it mean to be miserable? Why were you ready a few months ago but not now? What do you *want<a href=“if%20you%20know”>/I</a>, not just what you don’t want? If you don’t know, how do you think you might figure it out? (BTW, not knowing what you want to do afterwards is typical and more common than knowing. And even those who know often change their minds.)</p>
<p>Would you consider deferring admission until next year to the school that has your housing deposit? If so, contact the school and discuss the possibilities, and present that information to your parents. You may not lose your money in that case.</p>
<p>Go into the conversations (it will take more than one) in good faith and assume that your parents want what’s best for you. Be prepared for them to go through the whole range of emotions from anger to disappointment and all the other emotions you might not want to witness. Let them rant and rave and do not get mad with them. Remember that they have to let go of an idea they’ve had for long time.</p>
<p>It will be much worse on your parents if you aren’t honest. Not only will they likely lose significant money, but they will be infinitely sad and may feel like failures as parents if you don’t open up to them about something so important to you.</p>
<p>Trust that it will all work out.</p>