<p>Ok Aim78, you are grudgingly forgiven ;) And I am happy to say that I'm with a "nice guy", who didn't mind a bit when I made it perfectly clear how far I'm willing to go (if he was disappointed, he hid it well). Welshie, I like your definition of "girlfriend"/relationship. I think that's where we're headed, and it's a good place to be. I am relieved to have this resolved at any rate :)</p>
<p>I'm a bit of a ruffian on the outside, but I have a cream-filled center. Tastes great with strawberries.</p>
<p>SIRC Guide to Flirting
<a href="http://www.sirc.org/publik/flirt.html%5B/url%5D">http://www.sirc.org/publik/flirt.html</a></p>
<p>(amusing link posted by schemer on another thread)</p>
<p>I found the Posture part rather interesting.</p>
<p>Talk about overanalyzing...</p>
<p>I'm all for the "what happens, happens" route. Going with the flow. There's this girl that obviously likes me, and she is absolutely beautiful, looks like a younger Ashley Judd. So I'm just going to chat her up. I've never met her, but I can tell from the eye contact. She's interested. What I want her to know is that I also have a personality.</p>
<p>how do u guys manage women/men and school? i always try to turn off girls that say they like me cuz i dont want them to hurt my school performance. Arent relationships really time consuming?</p>
<p>I think relationships are time consuming, but I think it's one of those things that no matter how busy you get, if it's something you really want to do, then you always find a way to do it.</p>
<p>Most of the time, when I am going out with a girl that's mad groovy, I feel like a million bucks and that transfers into my school performance.</p>
<p>Is it weird to ask someone out if you've met them only once? Like there's this cute guy that I know from a debate tournament, and I'll probably see him again, cuz these things happen weekly.. but we don't really get a chance to talk... but I think that he's really cute, would it be weird if I just ask him out?</p>
<p>Having a relationship transfers into confidence and happiness, and that can only help. </p>
<p>well, its time to post this link to the "dating rules" by Karen Fox. It is the link at the bottom of the page at <a href="http://www.karenceliafox.com/Dating/index.htm%5B/url%5D">http://www.karenceliafox.com/Dating/index.htm</a> The "rules" are funny, and true!</p>
<p>-aim78
"Having a relationship transfers into confidence and happiness, and that can only help."</p>
<p>I completely agree w/ u</p>
<p>That "dating rules" site is great. Thanks for posting it!
Sleepisabliss: Yeah, relationships take up a lot of time. They're a full fledged extracurricular activity, and it's too bad you can't put it on Grad school applications (that would be cool. "My EC is being a really great gilrfriend!"). Right now I'm still finding the balance between work and play. In fact, I should be writing a paper right now...</p>
<p>Anglophile, i have never heard the girlfriend=sex thing, but i would say that if the guy isnt a virgin (and obviously you would know this more than us) then he may, at least at some point in the future, expect it. Its hard to give something up once youve started. However, if hes willing to go along with your standards...go for it. Just make sure its REALLY clear what you want. And dont be afraid to say something in the middle of things if its too much/whatever. Better to speak first and feel dumb than regret something later. btw-he sounds really cute, albeit a bit commitment loving (but then im a commitmentphobe so maybe thats just me:-)</p>
<p>hope this rambling makes sense.</p>
<p>Yep alita, your rambling makes sense :) He and I have an equal amount of inexperience, which actually works out very well. And being "REALLY clear" is my specialty-- I think I may have frightened him a bit with my direct approach on the matter. hehehe. And yeah, he is really cute! :D</p>
<p>hey, i do the same thing. its worked out well so far...that way you have no "wait i thought we were...." situations. and if you scared him off now, then you would have scared him off later-better that he gets used to it now :-)</p>
<p>like some other posts, we should be able to post/host pictures...
that'd be nice</p>
<p>i haven't read any of the replies here, and I just read that first post (ugh, it reminds me of how I used to be).</p>
<p>allow me to say a few GEMS:
Don't be a wuss. Come on, guys. Women do NOT want relationships with wusses. They might keep you around if you offer to get them water or always tell them they're pretty or listen to them when they want you to tell them that what they did wasn't slutty. Basically, they want you to be the "nice guy." Now, there's nothing wrong with being nice, but don't be the "nice guy."</p>
<p>Life is your reality, not hers. Don't be a wuss! It's PERFECTLY ok to make fun <em>but not in an evil way!</em> Be ****y and funny. Don't be afraid to start a conversation. I can go on, if you fellas want.</p>
<p>anglophileLV: If it's been a day or three, email him again and say something like "hey, i emailed you before about XYANDZ but I'm not sure if you got it. blah blah it'll be fun" and then if he still doesn't respond when you see him irl you can ask him if he got your emails. but don't be annoying about it. it sounds like he's interested in you, but again, he just might be a flirt.
just read the rest of your posts and i'd give you 70% chance that he's into you! </p>
<p>wolf: firstly you have a sweet name. secondly, i doubt you could have any relationship with him because he's on college and you're not. LD relationships suck, especially if you're a male in college! Personally, I wouldn't not email someone from HS, no matter how busy I was and no matter how much I disliked them. So, he either didnt get your mail or is a total loser. Whatever the case, pull one of those "hey josh, long time no see! i sent you an email a while back, did you get it? blah blah"</p>
<p>user: stop being a wuss, bro! if she likes you, then totally awesome. if she doesn't, then really, who cares?</p>
<p>elizabeth: firstly i absolutely love your name. secondly, yes and no. it will definitely be seen as too foreward, so be careful who you ask out. when a girl asked me out 2 years ago in 10th grade (which was the case) i acted like a wuss and then let her decide pretty much everything else. no girl wants to go out with a wuss, so blah. however, now (i'm not a wuss) if a girl asked me out, i'd play it by the books, i.e. I make up an excuse not to do it with her on whatever night she wants to do it and offer to do it another night. oh how that makes your sex wonder if we like you or not! be warned, if no alternate night is altered then there's an excellent chance the man isn't interested in you!</p>
<p>if anyone else has questions, i can try to help =p</p>
<p>I'm a junior in high school and pretty much a loser when it comes to girls. I mean I know quite a few, and talk -- but I've never had a girlfriend, if you know what I mean. I'm just waiting for college to turn around and be a bit more social like I was during my junior high years. High school's just made me an 'academic' type of guy. What suggestions do you guys have for me in college? I don't really like the way I'm living, but I'm giving the excuse that academics is first in life right now. I'm also at an all-boys school to make the situation worse. Help?</p>
<p>just by the way, my last messege should have read, "if no alternate night is offered..."</p>
<p>anyway, cash'd:
wow, dude, you're at an all boys high school? Ouch! But don't let that stop you. I have a few friends in that go to an all boy high school (i'm at a coed one, btw), but I guess you can think of that as a plus. If you decide to interact with a girl and it doesn't work out, you don't have to worry about your friends knowing or whatever.</p>
<p>College will provide an excellent opportunity for you to interact with new people, so don't fall into the same trap that you fell into in high school. As you said, for the most part, "academics first" is nothing more than an excuse because you should always have a bit of free time. Last night, for example, I stayed home to do some work. It's about balance.</p>
<p>One thing that most people don't realize is that you don't get a girlfriend right a way. You have a friend first and then, if you REALLY want to, you have a girlfriend. It sounds, cashd, that you're too far advanced in high school for a girlfriend. Why would you want to put up with all that **** since you're going to leave for college in less than a year? Having a girl who is a friend, or having a friend with benefits is one things, but meeting "the one" in high school is ridiculous!</p>
<p>Stop making excuses. Your life is your reality. I don't know how you look but you must promise me that you will do the following before you get to college: keep your body fit and take pride in how you look and act. Wear some cologne (but not too much!!) Nobody wants to hang out with someone who looks like a loser. I'm convinced that anyone can make themselves look <em>at the very least</em> decent with some work. I'm especially serious about that physically fit part, you'll start acting more confident as well.</p>
<p>Confidence is key. If you're a pussy you will never have success. Read what I wrote about in the post above (i just reread what I wrote and I'm going to have to stop posting at 1 in the morning!) If you have any more questions (specifics as well) then let me know.</p>
<p>Ahhhh spoken like a true DJ. Here's the basic outline. Make eye-contact, smile, Say, "Hello, my name is Sammy Wu, and I like you." Jk, dont say that. I just typed it cause it rhymed... hehe... just say hi. Then throw in some smooth funny/****y remark, ask for her number, say you gotta go, then leave. Then call her about 3 days later just so she doesn't think you're desperate. Got it? Bing bada boom</p>