how to avoid going home a lot

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<p>so basically my dad's expecting me to come home a lot since i'm going to a school that's nearby and my brother came home every weekend when he was in college. how the hell do i avoid having to do that?? and no, too much homework or a date will not work. since my dad basically thinks i'm gonna sit around in a library 100% of the time, or that I'm gonna have to always be studying and might as well come home to do that. </p>

<p>how the hell do i avoid going home as much as possible? any crafty things you guys use that i might be able to use???</p>

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<p>I don’t have this problem, but you could say that you and some classmates formed a study group and you will meet on weekends.</p>

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<p>I thought this thread was going to be about self-control or putting yourself out there.</p>

<p>Hell, just don’t go home. Tell your dad you’re busy with your friends. And that you want to be more indepedent, and have the real experience of living on-campus or living at college.</p>

<p>Why does your dad want you home every weekend? My god, tell him you’re old enough to make your own decisions and that he just has to let you go. Your dad sounds clingy.</p>

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<p>^try telling that to an orthodox indian engineer who is fos. yeah, right…if i told him i wanted to be more independent and am hanging with friends that’d be the end of college. </p>

<p>i guess it was a pointless question since no seems to be able to ever get away from my house or family…trust me, my brother’s tried…i should’ve known better than to try…forget this. :(</p>

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<p>Try reasoning that there will be more resources available at school, you’ll be more easily distracted at home, and because everybody at school is there to learn and study (supposedly), you’ll have more focus and support, and it’ll be a more academic environment.</p>

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<p>you people who don’t have ridiculously strict brown parents just don’t get it. Y’all are always going on about using reasoning and persuasion to convince your parents to do this and that. guess what, that doesn’t work with our folks…really, they don’t give a crap, they don’t encourage social interaction, they really just want us to get A’s, become doctors/engineers, find one of our kind to marry, and reproduce and repeat the whole cycle…</p>

<p>hahah this is a blatant stereotype of fobby immigrant/1st gen brown parents. but an accurate one, based on personal experience. :)</p>

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<p>Join some engineering society and keep yourself busy with it. Join a bunch of clubs, too.</p>

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<p>Tell him you dont have a car to come back with, and then maybe you can get a car!</p>

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<p>Either A) Join clubs that meet on weekends or
B) Say you joined clubs that meet on weekends.</p>

<p>Tailor the clubs you’re ‘joining’ to whatever you think he’d be ok with. Beerpong league? Probably not. Society of Indian Engineers? Hey, worth a shot. Make sure it exists first though.</p>

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<p>come<em>sail</em>away: i would love to follow your advice, but i can’t drive…my dad made sure of that. </p>

<p>^i thought of doing that, chuy, and i just may try that. i’m joining newspaper, so maybe that could be an excuse. </p>

<p>beef: what makes you think i’ll be an engineer??? well, i probably will since i’m going to gatech, but i think i’ll die of boredom with that. </p>

<p>stargazerlilies: omg…that’s my life planned out for me… how’d you know???( :confused: bitter sarcasm)</p>

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<p>I saw the word “engineer” in your first post and didn’t pick up on that being your dad. If you’re an engineer at GT you will NOT be bored.</p>

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<p>true…very true…i’ll hate school and my home so basically i’ll be saying ■■■ a lot. :)</p>

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<p>You could also tell him you have an exam Monday morning and that you could study best for it at school, like at the library or something.</p>

<p>Probably wouldn’t be able to pull that one off every week, but often enough.</p>

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<p>Well that’s actually a starting point - somebody always gives a pop quiz on Mondays, and there’s a study group on Sundays…</p>

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<p>There’s so many weekend events to go to…say you’re going to XYZ community service event or volunteering at the local homeless shelter or something else random. You could actually do something like this and it’d be fun and better than going home but it could be used as an excuse even when you don’t have it.</p>

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<p>Call the police if he continues to disturb you. Oh but, keep letting him pay for your college if he is.</p>

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<p>Say you can’t study as well at home! If brown parents are anything like east asian parents using studying for any excuse should work… say you cant focus at home and your grade might drop if you keep on going back and forth.</p>

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<p>Being a brown kid, I know how you feel. My dad was real anal about even letting me dorm on campus (I live about an hour away). What I did was I appealed to my mom. Once I got her convinced to let me live on campus, she nagged my dad till he gave in. Now I see them once, maybe twice a month.</p>

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<p>Join a club sport that competes and travels on weekends. A lot of religious groups have weekend retreats to the beach or another city.</p>

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<p>If academics are the only thing your dad respects, then come up with reasons you absolutely can’t do your work at home:</p>

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<li><p>You need books on reserve at the library. Can’t take 'em home, so you have to stay at school.</p></li>
<li><p>Have to do group work and the only time the rest of your group can meet is on the weekend. You could probably use this as an every-week thing if you make up enough plausible details.</p></li>
<li><p>Need access to a lab/machine shop/computing center that has equipment or software you have to use.</p></li>
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