<p>well my moms a single mom and she basically makes me life a living hell. she doesnt let me do anything, i rarely get to hang out with friends because it will inconvenience her, she doesnt let me drive with anyone in the car except her, rarely even family member, and she wont even let me get my own car because she pulls the whole you cant afford it thing even though i can. when i try to talk to her about it nicely, she always yells is not understanding says how i make her life suck and that im a bad son, and how i always instigate arguments and how i am not sympathetic to her. i just idk idk what to do ne more</p>
<p>and its not like im immature either, im 17 years old and its not like im a bad kid either i mean ive never done anything remotely wrong in my life, i get straight a's in skool, its just like she wants to ruin my life</p>
<p>Wow, that sucks for you. My dad won't let me drink and stuff, but I do once and a while. I am not a nerd, and I dont get the best marks average of 90%, but my dad lets me do anything becasue he trusts me. Ask your mom again about the care, if she is being a B then you will wait a year until your an adult. Some people are unfortunate, worst comes to worst wait a year. My friend is in a worse scenario his parents are strict Asian parents only allowed to watch tv once and a while, cannot go out on the weekends or week days, has never driven. He is basically a prisoner/</p>
<p>Your mom definitely has problems. You have to remember that they are HER problems, not yours, even though it makes your life miserable. I know you love her, but right now she is venting her frustrations/failures on you. Layman psychology: whenever someone lights into you about a failure, it's really their own failure they are ranting about. If she says YOU can't afford your own car, she really means SHE can't afford it. Either she feels she can't financially or emotionally (like she's afraid you won't need her and she feels threatened by your independence). When she says you make her life suck and you're a bad son, what she really means is that SHE is a lousy mother and she's making your life miserable. She lacks control and needs help. One way you could help her (since you are more sane and objective) is by continuing to love her and seek help for her and you. Where to reach out for help... Do you have a school psychologist? If so, tell her/him that your mom's psycho (or whatever) and that it is really worrying you. That's a start. If you don't have a school pyschologist, try a hotline. Look in the front of the phone book or yellow pages for "crisis" or something like like that. People who man those hotlines love to hear from people like you. They should be able to hook you up with someone who can help (or is supposed to help). Keep your sanity. Your mom doesn't really want to ruin your life. She feels her life is in ruins.</p>
<p>my mom used to care and then my younger sister started doing not that great, so now it's like</p>
<p>me: "mom did you read my report card?"
mom: "yes" leaves room to go talk to my sister</p>